Took ds tonight. He was very excited and we have been trying to get him in for ages. Unfortunately, the one nearest to us, to which at least two of his classmates go, is full, so we took the decision to send him to one a five minute drive away. We have been in this area less than a year and he does no other extra-curricular stuff and has been quite slow to make friends at school (though progress on that front since Sept), so we didn't want to leave it any longer as we thought this would be a good way to meet people.
Anyway, 5 or 6 other children started tonight, 4 of them together as a unit, and they already knew several other children there. Ds joined in well on all the group activities, but there was no real effort to intergrate new members - buddying them up, or anything. At snack time, ds ended up sitting on his own surrounded by groups of children all chatting to each other 
. Aibu to think one of the 5 volunteers there could have encouraged him to join a group, made introductions, eased his path in some way? It was so hard to watch I considered going to him myself and encouraging him to join a group, but I couldn't have got to him without stepping over all the children and, as the only parent there, I felt it would have made a show of him.
It just seems that unless you already know loads of people there is no point in going to these groups as people go in with existing friends.
AIBU?