To ignore MIL's phone calls and texts

[NickysMam]

My marriage with STBXH ended horrendously and MIL(technically she's his auntie, so not even my MIL but in their culture, she's as good as) played a major role in this. The frustrating thing is that she's so oblivious to her nasty and controlling behavior that she thinks I'm having a "hissy fit" and that "I'll come crawling back soon"

I ignored her over Christmas and New Year's which is deemed as really rude in their culture not to call to wish them a Merry Christmas and a happy New year so I've been bombarded with texts and phone calls from her asking me to call her back.

She's on my blacklist so she never gets through. STBXH emailed me asking me to call her to say hello and pay my respects. After everything I've been through with his nasty family, I'm amazed that they'd have the balls to even expect acknowledgment from me.

I also know calling her will cause unnecessary drama but it's been eating me up for weeks. I will admit I am bitter about how I was treated and I really wish his family would just fuck off. Should I call and give her a piece of my mind or continue to ignore her.

Ex in laws? You don't owe them anything. Unless you actually like them and wish to remain in contact, then they can bugger off IMO.

What do you want to do? In your position, I'd find it enormously irritating that there was an expectation that 'paying my respects' was considered more important than my desire for privacy after the end of a bad marriage, or that my justifiable anger was a temporary tantrum. If you're unlikely to manage to make her understand this, continue to ignore...? Change your number? Take out a hit on her?

Tell him you won't be paying your respects because you don't have any? It might piss them off enough to leave you alone, as long as you don't think you will ever need to see them again its worth a try.

And change your number!

I've just been in touch with o2 and they've changed my number. I thought because I have a contract, that I'm stuck with this number until it's finished.

I'm going to ignore them as much as I can (we have a DS and DC on the way so I can't ignore him as much as I'd like to)

Ex in laws are no concern of yours unless you want them to be.

YANBU. Ignore.

If your number's changed, fantastic- you won't even know about the texts and calls. And just tell Ex that you've changed your number and he can email you about access arrangements.

If ExMIL uses email to hassle you, I would reply telling her to stop harassing you and consider whether it merits a discussion with the police about harassment.