I had what I thought was a good friend. Saw each other every week, sons played together at nursery, play dates etc. We had a good laugh. I thought we were close. I was the first person she told she was pg (apart from her family obviously and baby born this September), when her dh was made redundant etc.
This past year, she's been actively avoiding me socially. I didn't 'get' it for a long time and I'm embarrassed about that as she was physically stepping away from me whilst I merrily carried on, greeting her warmly etc. I've been really quite hurt by this as you don't get good friends very often.
She's never rude, sometimes a wee bit chatty if circumstances force it but she will always seek out other people at the school gate first, make play dates with every other child in the nursery part of the school apart from with mine.
My ds2 keeps asking to play with her son. What do I say?
Every so often (monthly-six weeks), this friend and I along with two other friends meet at each other's houses for supper. We chat, drink wine, have a laugh etc. We've not done it for a while actually. One of the other women has proposed a date to which my (ex) friend has responded enthusiastically.
I don't want to go. Absolutely, I could of course go and sit and chat and make small talk. But I don't want to.
Thinking about it, she has been very rude to me under the guise of superficial politeness.
And I don't get why she wants to go either after she's worked pretty hard (especially since I didn't realise) to shed me as a friend. Surely this evening together will set back her hard work and she might think I want to see her socially again and that will be awkward for her.
I don't want to involve the two other women in any drama. In fact, I don't want any drama at all but I can't see how I can get out of what was this regular meet up.
I don't want to sit there and chat whilst she's been determinedly trying to avoid me in every other social setting. Why should I and what can I say to get out of it permanently with minimum fuss?