Please dont flame.
I have a young DC, and a partner who I let into our lives and it wasnt a decision that was taken lightly. He has a pretty decent but normal job, normal career, good prospects and when it comes to other aspects of his life nothing has been held back from us.
It was mentioned this morning that he had had a post saved for him to go into the army to become an officer which was always his back up plan but he had to defer as last year he was doing something else. He said he emailed them to defer again to next year. But that he probably will never go.
what does that even mean? you either want to or you dont surely? why keep it as an open option and why hide it from us until now. Im all for the armed forces and I think they, along with their families are absolute heroes.
But me and DC have had a very traumatic time of it with his dad and I was open and honest with DP about that from the start, maybe if he had been with me I wouldnt have continued the relationship, I just want stability for DS, I dont want him to have men leave all the time and to have to explain about the army when theres enough going on with his own dad.
I know its only a possibility and im probably being a bit dramatic about it but I just feel like he should have told us from the start because now Ive fallen in love with a man whos perfect in every way but he might just leave, And i know what that would do to my heart let alone DCs