AIBU to expect them to repair my DS's coat?

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A boy at school ripped the hood off my 8 yr olds school coat. I have tried to sew it back on with my sewing machine but the collar is too thick. I am getting more and more cross that it is my problem to resolve rather then the parents of the child who did this. He also wiped his muddy hands down the back of my son's blazer and this is not the first incident of this boy ripping my son's hood. Do I insist that the parents get his coat mended or am I making a fuss about something trivial?
Your thoughts appreciated.

I don't think you are, but you'll probably need to go through school, as it sounds like more than a one off.

Go through the school, most definitely.

What if the other kid denies all knowledge? As the pp said, I think there are much bigger issues here at play. Have you spoken to the school about the bullying?

It happened the last day of term so I told his teacher who said she would deal with it when they go back to school (tomorrow). Not sure if I should ask her to tell the parents that they need to mend the coat.

I wouldn't expect them to mend the coat. I would expect the school to be keep a close eye on things to ensure it doesn't happen again though if it's through bullying/fighting etc. if it's just rough play/high spirits then these things happen but it's not so serious but tell the school to put a stop to hood grabbing. Many of my DD's clothes have been ruined over the years. It's one of those things.

I think that although it is really frustrating but they can't really be asked to fix it. Have you tried to mend it with hand sewing.Or maybe get it done professionally and mention to the school if there is anyway you can be reimbursed? I think you should talk to the school about the situation but not sure they can do much.

Thanks guys, I have decided that I can't really ask for them to mend it and have had another go. I've managed to fix it in a fashion but it's not great. I know I have to put it down to rough and tumble at school but it is annoying that the other boy's mum is not put out in the slightest and I have to keep fixing the coat. I will stress to his teacher that I expect them to sort this out.
Thanks for some rational input!

I have the sane problem, op. A little oik boy in my ds's class at school is seemingly unable to NOT pull the hoods of coats until they rip off. Some of the parents have been remonstrating and trying to get the ruined coats replaced, I have just stopped sending him in a hoded coat and have stocked up on cheap beanie hats (from poundland, etc.) instead.

That'll be a hooded coat, obviously

At DS's school they went through a phase of ripping hoods off one another's coats. Really bloody irritating

Not of any help now but maybe worth thinking about next time if you keep getting similar problems. DD's coat has a hood held on with press studs. It occassionally gets ripped off by little oiks over enthusiastic peers but just just clips it back on again. (came from H&M)

Hood pulling is a nightmare at DS school but Ive seen it happen in the park and am reasonably convinced its just a rough game. I wouldn't ask another parent to fix a hood and I'd be a bit put out to be asked myself. IMO its just one of those playground things.