to want to (metaphorically) shake my mother over this comment?

[Trought]

My sister is married to a control freak who has numbed her self-esteem (she used to be so bubbly). She is um-ing and aah-ing over whether or not to leave him. I definitely think that she should, but am being supportive while giving her space. I am concerned for her. My mum and I were talking about this and she said, 'but I hope they stay together. I like him'.

I know this is silly but this comment has irritated me ever since she said it. She has always lived in a 'it's all about ME' sort of world but this, I feel, goes one step further. I don't know. AIBU to feel annoyed about this? Probably am.

Well, maybe she does like him? I tend to expect parents to focus on their child's happiness in these kinds of situations, but I suppose it's perfectly possible that the face he shows to the world is likeable enough to con your mother...?

Or, if she is anything like my mother, she imagines a woman initiating a divorce has to leave the marital home with a single suitcase and live penniless in a hostel...

I suppose that he is likeable (until you get to know him) and I admit I was charmed until I knew what he was like. But I feel like shouting at my mother, 'That's not the point. Whether or not you like him is irrelevant!'

This is her all over actually; she left her sister's husband's funeral because she felt 'unwell' -nothing wrong with her bar the fact that the attention was not focused on her . And when my brother died in spite of the fact that the nurse had told her his death was imminent she still travelled home (he lived 100 miles away) without informing the rest of the family (myself included) and he died alone. How a mother could desert her son like that is beyond me. 'Your son is about to die'. 'OK I'll b*er off home, then'. OK, she didn't say that exactly but that is what she did.