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To think it's strange that the school is doing this?

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summersblue · 07/01/2014 11:51

My sister who is 14 and is in Year 10 has told me recently that a new thing has come in where at lunch time they have to have a pudding with their meal. When I asked what she meant, she told me that until September you would get your meal (the main, potato item and veg) and then you could choose to have a pudding if you wanted to but if you didn't want one that was fine.

However she said this September it all changed and now it has become compulsory to have a pudding with it. Even if you tell the dinner ladies you don't want one, they won't let you leave and pay until you pick one. My sister has always had quite a small appetite, ever since she was a baby and doesn't really like having a pudding. She likes to just have her meal and that's it and she's always been this way.

I told her just to take the pudding but not actually eat it and she says that's what she would normally do except if a teacher catches you taking your tray away and you haven't eaten it, they will send you back and not let you go until you've eaten it. This has only happened to her once apparently even though she'd eaten all her main meal and kept telling the teacher she was full and didn't want any more. She still sent her back though and she had to eat it. The kids who don't want pudding tend to just sneak away away when nobody is looking but sometimes people will still be caught and sent back.

I can't be the only one who thinks this is odd. Fine have pudding for those who want it but to make people who don't want it have some seems a bit too much. Sending them back to eat it too seems especially over the top. The puddings are apparently quite stodgy too - cake and custard, etc. There's seldom any choice to have something lighter like fruit or jelly.

Is this common practice in schools these days?

OP posts:
amistillsexy · 07/01/2014 23:43

I don't think it's a case of 'forcing people to eat', I think it sounds like they are trying to change the culture amongst the students (whether or not they will do any good is anybody's guess, but they have to be seen to be trying).

grumpyoldbat · 07/01/2014 23:43

amistill I get where you're coming from but I don't think the school are going about it the right way. Forcing yourself to eat when not hungry isn't actually a healthy attitude to food. Noting who is not eating much and talking to them and actually taking time to listen before making decisions on whether further steps are required seems a much healthier and sensible approach to me.

amistillsexy · 07/01/2014 23:47

Maybe the plan is to do that as well, grumpy. They may have been monitoring the situation first, and they might have a really good idea of which students they need to watch and counsel. The OP's sister might just have got caught in the cross-fire, or else she might be under 'watch'. We don't really know.
As I said, changing the culture might just save a couple of those who are on the brink. Maybe it's more to do with being 'allowed' to eat when you are hungry, rather than being forced not to eat when you're not.

YoullNeedATray · 07/01/2014 23:53

I'd be intrigued to know what the school's policy is on tackling obesity.

falulahthecat · 07/01/2014 23:59

This happened to me at primary school, I wasn't feeling well, and din't want to eat all of my lunch, but we always had to finish everything, so a dinner lady made me sit and eat the chocolate bar (!) and I was sick and had to go home!

However, have never heard of this happening at secondary school. If anything at mine they would've been pleased she'd eaten the proper food and not JUST the pudding! :/

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