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AIBU?

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Original poster

to think he has just lost the moral highground

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highho1 · 06/01/2014 20:15

So dh has just winged because I did a grocery shop today and brought something we already have. Something that will keep and It isn't even something I use.
However, he has just spent £130 on a games console for ds. without even discussing with me. (So he could have a quiet life as dc were sharing one)
Yet the reason why we have no money is because We (meaning I) spend too much on groceries.
The last shop he did involved buying bread that was only 2 days before use by. It went moldy before we could use it and me and the dc had no bread for morning. He only did a shop because I was going away for work for 2 days.

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FunkyBoldRibena · 06/01/2014 20:44

So you have 2 games consoles and no bread?

Anyone see the flaw in this plan?

Losthearts · 06/01/2014 20:47

Tell him to do the grocery shopping

GlitzAndGiggles · 06/01/2014 21:37

Keep bread in the fridge. Why can't they share a console? That money could've gone on food

pointythings · 06/01/2014 21:47

Our bread lives in the freezer and gets taken out and used slice by slice.

And no-one buys expensive games consoles without consulting the other party.

YANBU at all.

PumpkinPie2013 · 06/01/2014 21:52

YANBU

Groceries are essential and prices have gone up a lot recently.

Games consoles however are not and neither me or DH would make such a purchase without consulting eachother.

Tell him to return the console and he can do the grocery shop from now on!!

Original poster

highho1 · 07/01/2014 03:58

O and he spent another £50 the week before.
Bread thing is just annoying. I always check dates. He just picks up 1st loaf he sees. No wonder he is quicker on the rare occasions he does a shop!

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Losthearts · 07/01/2014 07:44

Tell him to do the shop and then see how much he spends

Pollydon · 07/01/2014 07:50

So he can spend on crap you don't need but you are bollocked over the buying of 1 grocery item ??? What a dickhead

russianmule · 07/01/2014 08:02

My DH lost any moral high ground the day he went out and bought a car without a word. No more raised eyebrows..ever.

SofaKing · 07/01/2014 08:04

Dh does this, I had to pour 4 pints of milk away as he had bought them the day before they went out of date.

I was wondering if it was worth it to keep a record of all the money he wastes like this and show him. I definitely would if he had whinged like your dh!

Losthearts · 07/01/2014 08:30

If he buys short dated food, just dish up to him.

Trills · 08/01/2014 08:45

I think you are being unreasonable to be worrying about who has the moral high ground.

This is not a game that you "win". It is your life. Go and discuss your spending together.

LtEveDallas · 08/01/2014 08:53

DH and I had to have a 'chat' about him buying cheap/close to use-by crap food wise. For example tesco own brand tomato ketchup that makes DDs mouth sore because of the vinegar content, or instant coffee that was more chicory than taste

His attitude was "it's only ketchup, just don't let her have so much and her mouth wont get sore" "It's only coffee, it all tastes the same"

He has a funny attitude to food, if I didn't cook he would live on sandwiches and cannot understand people that like food and get pleasure from it rather than it just being fuel.

Quickly solved the next time I shopped and bought him cheap tescos own lager rather than Carlsberg. "It's only beer love, same taste, same effect"

We now have Dow Egberts and Heinz . Sometimes actions speak louder than words.

toomuchclutter · 08/01/2014 17:07

LtEveDallas sounds like your DH cares more about his beer rather than something affecting his DDs mouth because of the vinegar in the cheaper ketchup

LtEveDallas · 08/01/2014 17:36

Absolutely. But then Ketchup isn't exactly necessary either.

toomuchclutter · 08/01/2014 17:52

No it isn't but it takes higher priority than beer if that is what your DD likes. I am sure she doesn't eat as ketchup as your DH drinks beer?

LtEveDallas · 08/01/2014 17:59

Well no, and that was the point. If he wanted to 'waste' money on beer, then he had to 'waste' money on Heinz Ketchup too.

He could have done without the beer, she could have done without the Ketchup (and I could have done without the coffee), but if he wanted good beer, then she had to have good ketchup

toomuchclutter · 08/01/2014 18:09

The whole logic sounds bizarre

Still can't believe he would put booze above something his child likes to eat

LtEveDallas · 08/01/2014 18:22

As I said, food just isn't important to him, I swear the man has no taste buds , so he just didn't get it, until I did it to him. Nothing to worry about.

Toecheese · 08/01/2014 18:27

How much do you spend a week on food?

I agree the kids should have shared and he shouldn't have spent the money.

OU need to remind him food is essential to living while the latest faddy gadget isn't.

toomuchclutter · 08/01/2014 18:35

Food maybe not be important to him but it is to a growing DD

He would rather his DD has less of a ketchup that makes her mouth sore than sacrifice his beer

LtEveDallas · 08/01/2014 19:04

You dont need put so much emphasis on it toomuchclutter, it really isn't an issue

toomuchclutter · 08/01/2014 20:18

Just think it is a shame some parents put booze above their own kids

gildedcage · 08/01/2014 20:30

I hardly ever post however I was shocked by the comment re people putting booze before their children...are you for real?! The other poster was talking about KETCHUP...a condiment... really....

OPeaches · 08/01/2014 20:34

Gildedcage, my thoughts exactly

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