to think she should take it on the chin (work party)

[harriet247]

My very good friend is in a shit load of trouble over staff works do, I worked for her before leaving for mat leave and we became good friends.
The place is very cliquey and bitchy and my friend and three others were overhead laying into their manager and her assistant in the toilets. All very very drunk and have been pulled in today and been told they acted disgracfully.
I know the others too socially but they arent 'serious'members of staff.
My friend NEEDS this job, she has no other income,is single and has responsibilities.
At the moment she is waxing lyrical about how they're all bitches,nobody heard them bitching,she was more pissed last year and like fuck will she apologise but there is a very real possibility that she will be fired Thursday at a review.
Ive told her to write a letter of apology but she is so riled up and indignant and egged on by the other 3 that she is acting like an idiot.
She is normally a lovely kind generous person but alcohol is not her friend.
I thought I would show her this thread to garner opinion.

Personally I would not gear the letter towards the directors. She can grovel in person at the meeting. I think the letter should be a written apology to the employee/s that she was overheard talking about. This should then be given to whomever is conducting the meeting to do with as they see fit.

I have also sacked someone for this kind of misconduct - however, in this case it was someone who also broke patient confidentiality and made inappropriate suggestions about that patient's relationship with one of our GPs (totally untrue btw).

However, if she's contrite and grovels then she might just get to stay, but still, she has blighted her copy book (is that the right phrase?) and should move on asap as she'll have no future in that job now.

Jesus, she needs to drop these two other people who are winding her up like hot stones. If she has seniority it will hit her much, much harder than them. Be contrite, take it all on board, suck it up, say sorry. Ask what you can do to put it right. Drop the bolshie nonsense right now.

How would she feel if she'd heard 3 colleagues bitching about her?

Big life lesson to be learnt, apologise and keep your job.

Agree, grovel in the meeting, stress excellent record, show remorse and offer to apologise in writing or in person

I think offering to get some help for her alcohol abuse might help.

Then again it might not.

Office parties are the work of the devil.

I would say letter of apology, keep a distance from the two others for a bit and avoid office parties in the future.

If her manager is a knob that is a separate issue to be discussed at the right place and time.

It's going to be very hard to get another job at the same level with a disciplinary on her reference.