To utterly despise every man who ever said...

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"We're pregnant".

I'm guilty of this

I have been known to say "Me and DH are pregnant with our first child."

I am on my knees begging for MN forgiveness

heartisaspade That reminds me of a moment in our antenatal class when one utter bellend was going on and on about how he didn't think women needed pain relief in labour because they didn't have it in the olden days His wife looked both frightened and resigned.

I employed both and loud mansplaining voice to remind him of the maternal mortality rate... "Yeah, they tended to die a lot too."

He didn't say another word for the remainder of the course

Writer just don't ever say it again....ok

'We're pregnant' is how I phrased it. To my mind, the physical challenges if pregnancy were going to be a doddle compared to the challenges my hubby had in supporting and coping with me. I had it easy compared to him!

YANBU.

Hanging's too good for them.

Hate the 'we're pregnant' thing. Hate hate hate hate it.

Anyone (male or female tbh-it's as bad coming from either) saying it should be forced to have their reproductive organs removed. Without anaesthetic. Just so they are never ever ever able to attempt a 'we're pregnant' comment ever ever again.

Perhaps that's a tad unreasonable too. Maybe just a good slap should suffice!

YANBU by the way!

Yes scoop - I promise

joysmum - I have been such a cow to my husband at times. I'm moody, grumpy, snappy etc. I show him disdain and impatience on a daily basis and despite hating myself for doing it, I can't stop!

I say it, but none of you are YANBU to hate it, it's proper cringy.

I don't know how else to include poor old DH in the situation, so I'm embracing the cringe on this occasion only

However, I shall release Pregzilla on anyone sending cards from '...and the bump'. Nobbers.

lastonedancing - me and DH didn't write 'and the bump' in our ?Christmas cards, I find it do sickly!! However, about 75% of the cards we received were written as being to [mine and husband's name] 'and the bump'.

FFS don't look on the baby names thread! Someone on there has just announced 'we're pregnant' arrrgghh

Ha! Ours too Writer!

I see no reason to feel sorry for the male partner at all, nor any reason to include him in this way. He's not pregnant. It's not worse for him. He doesn't know how you feel. He won't be left with permanent physical effects.

The fact that some childish twerps need to erase part of their pregnant partner's experience so the diddums isn't excluded is utterly, abjectly pathetic.

Hate 'we're pregnant' and 'we're breast feeding'!!!

Lol: 'we've got an erection'

Worra I have seen the younger generation using the phrase 'lady boner'.

No idea what the world's coming to tbh.

Yanbu. Luckily i've never heard anyone say it!

They could say "we are expecting a baby" because this is true - you are both expecting it to arrive around a certain date. Only one of you is going to carry it, give birth to it etc but technically this statement is correct.

Yes we got sent "and the bump" cards too! Crazy. Didn't make reference to the unborn baby in any cards or gift labels myself. People also used a private nickname for the baby that has unfortunately been leaked into wider family and this annoyed me a lot!

Oh god and anyone who says "we don't want pain relief" should actually be subjected to torture so as to experience equivalent pain...

My dh has many faults but he would never dream of saying anything like this. To his credit i have always found his opinions on pregnancy/ childbirth very well considered and crucially only given when sought! I have no idea what his views are on pain relief as never asked (he has been present through one birth already and I have no idea if he has an opinion!)

YAverydefinitelyNBU.

I hate and detest this more than I can express calmly. I've only heard it spoken by women and that irritated the life out of me. What kind of man would utter those words?

I signed some of our (family) Christmas cards '& bump' since family addresses them that way. I thought it was nice of them to remember/include. So I'm afraid I think YABU.

As for 'bean/lentil' NN for foetuses (foeti?) what would you prefer? The rather precious my unborn child, 'the foetus'? I find both MUCH worse than nicknames.

Slightly off topic, but when my then almost-ex-boyfriend (now DH!) told his brother he had some news, his brother's response was "Have you pupped your lass?" .

YANBU at all

How's OUR pelvic floor then? Pissed yourself lately, Sonny Jim?

YANBU. Also, it really bugs me when you see these stories of women who've given birth unexpectedly at home or in the carpark or wherever, and the article is all about the wonderful heroic husband who 'delivered' the baby all by himself.

Some douche in my antenatal group berated me for saying I wanted all pain relief available including a big fucking epidural. As I recall his missus ended up having the full works :o

What a cheeky fecker

Yanbu - it's so so SO annoying.
We're expecting is much more acceptable and doesn't set my teeth on edge.

Men commenting even one word about not having any pain relief should be made to have their wife/partner hold their ball sack between her teeth for the whole duration of labour :)