regards of sister

[StupidMistakes]

I received a message today from her stating that " it was nice of you to care so much that you didn't even message me over Christmas "

I will not lie, I didn't message her over Christmas, however she has been abusive to the extreme in the past, and since mum died we haven't spoke, not even at the funeral. My main issue is why was she expecting me to talk to her? When she has made it clear she doesn't want me as part of her life and I don't wish for her to be involved in mine?

The reason I swore never to talk to her again was amongst many other things, her not telling me my mum was in hospital dying, not telling me for four days that my mum had died, then telling me she had that morning and thus lying about it, after she messaged the day before telling me mum didn't have long left and then lying that the funeral had already been, I found out from the crem on the Friday before the funeral that it hadn't already happened and that she still refuses to tell me where my mums ashes are.

She then expects what I merry Christmas text message? REALLY? AIBU to tell her that this is no longer stupid mistakes number and that no I do not have her number please do not contact me again?

Completely ignore her. Don't bother to text her back.

Ywbu to respond at all. Get your number changed and just go completely non contact.

I'm sorry for your loss and all the extra pain she put you through

Text back saying your phone must have been playing up because this is the first text you've had from her and you didn't receive her Christmas text either!

She sounds dreadful.

Perhaps you should tell her that you don't care & that's why you didn't message her!

But I agree with pp-best ignored.

Ignore the text and most of all, continue to ignore your sister. She sounds like she has the potential to be extremely harmful to your emotional well being. Protect yourself by keeping away.

I'm sorry to hear about your mum.

Very sorry about your mum. Your sister sounds horrible and if you swore you'd never speak to her again, you shouldn't let her force you to now. If you do decide to talk to her in the future, it should be on your terms, not because she sends a petulant text message. Good luck.

There is no reason to reply at all. There is a reason to block her number though.

What an awful thing to do but I agree do not reply. For whatever reason she has chosen to text you now she will be expecting a response whether good or bad. Don't give her the satisfaction.
So best to ignore and block her number if you can

Do not engage. Delete.

You don't know where your Mum's ashes are? I'm sorry. That must be tough x

Don't engage with her. These sort of people want a reply, any reply, even if it's F off. Don't let her have it, just ignore and delete.

She keeps you out of the loop on extremely important issues and then expects you to wish her Merry Christmas. Classic. She sounds toxic, do not go there.

Don't reply. Why would you want to? She is looking to cause a drama.

So sorry about your troubles.

Ignore her don't engage delete her number and take care of yourself.

If you have an iphone block the number.

ignore, then either block her number or change yours

Ignore and delete

God what a bitch! I'd ignore her,i think she's just looking to create confrontation and drama because she gets off on it. I feel you have no intention or desire to have a relationship with her so just block her number,if she persists in contacting you then you can do her for harassment. She knows she's treated you badly and she doesn't care,she just wants to abuse you some more.

She sounds absolutely dreadful. So sorry to hear about your mum. Either send her one back saying that you have no interest in being in touch with her now or in the future and then block her or simply ignore her. Yanbu at all.

Do you only have the one sister? If so, then you had more than enough reasons before any of that to go totally 'no contact' with her, all the stuff re your Mum was totally unforgiveable. No 'Merry Christmas'

I also have a fuckwit of a(n alcoholic) sister who will suddenly send me a tiny present out of the blue after 6 years of no contact and then whine and moan that I haven't said thank you! WTF!!

I feel your pain. Ignore ignore ignore xx

I agree with Chipping, coz she is cool

Either ignore, or reply 'But I don't care about you, and had no wish for you to have anything but a completely shit Christmas. Does that clear it up for you?'

How absolutely disgusting of your 'sister', what an awful human being. She obviously needs some more drama in her life, she's contacting you to trigger off more drama so take the advice on this thread and do not engage. She's clearly unhinged and bored; a dangerous combination.

I'm so sorry about your mum. Try to remember that our memories and feelings about loved ones are the most important things x

Did she send you a merry Christmas message?

Whenever I feel guilty for not contacting someone I think ' well they haven't contacted me ' and instantly feel better about it.