to think that if co-sleeping comes up in converstation it is not an invitation to ask about the co-sleep ers sex life?

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We co-sleep with our baby, I'm really not the sort of person to preach about my parenting decisions, I don't have much of an opinion about other people's parenting as long as their children are not neglected or abused.

A few times recently co-sleep ing has come up in converstation, usually after people have seen ds sleeping in our bed on the video monitor or if I'm chatting about ds's sleep recounting the time I woke up and he was lieing on my face

2 seperate people asked us how we have sex! One situation was a family gathering with pre-teen kids present, the other was in a cafe which seemed to go very quiet.
My dp answered "ds wasn't conceived in our bedroom even though there were no babies in the bed, you do know you can have sex anywhere in your house?" I just mumbled something about the sofa.

Aibu to think it is strange to ask about sex life in such situations? I'm not a prude and a night out with friends or even a dinner party wouldn't phase me but it was the situations that seemed an odd time to ask such a question.

The correct answer in that situation is "None of your business."

Yanbu. They can wonder about it but to actually ask is just bad manners.

Just look at them shocked and say 'do you only ever have sex in bed?' and then laugh

I take the same approach as LovesBaubling. "You mean you only have sex in bed?! Oh..." and laugh.

And yes, it's incredibly rude.

I must admit it is something I would always think but I wouldnt ask unless very drunk.

Though tbh I wonder how any parents manage sex especially with toddlers unless a lock is on the door

It depends who you are talking to? Surely friends talk about their sex lives all the time?? I wouldn't have been offended at all and would have found it quite humorous.

It is something that can be an issue with co-sleeping though, and often the deciding factor when choosing not to.

I might have wondered until I had my 7 year old DS. We haven't exactly decided to co-sleep, but he makes his way to my bed most night before DP manages to get in it.

Me and DP manage though!

The "do you only ever have sex in bed?' and then laugh" is great! I will use that one next time :)

The other option I considered was giving them a big list of all the places we have sex, with pros and cons to each place. I bet they would wish they hadn't asked!

Ha ha my mum was obsessed wit this, she thought it was terrible we co-slwpt and was convinced it woudl ruin our relatiinship, we now have five children and still co-sleep wiht the youngest snd she hasstopped mentioning it as clearly we still manage to have sex!

And I normally just say something about bed not being the only place to hve sex.

It's so rude! I have wondered it about people but would never dare ask! Def like the pros and cons list of other places, they won't think to ask anyone else ever again!