To expect a 14yr old, and 2 nearly 12yr olds to be able to agree on a game to play without hours of arguing about it?

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Give.Me.Strength.
Insanity and beyond here I come.

Yabu to expect a 14 year old to do anything without some sort of fuss!

Put some music on and ignore them!

YABU.

Are they siblings? If so, I'd even congratulate you just on the fact that they at least want to play something together even if they can't decide what that might be.

YABU

In an ideal world they would be able to. But in my house, it never happens.

YANBU. i have a 14 year old and an 11 year old DS. It seems to be fight afternoon here.

Remus you're not wrong there, infact I've just decided everything DCs do in their waking hours either creates a FUSS or a MESS or both!

I mean I don't remember 'playing ' being so difficult, I just got on with it, in or out of the house.
All I get is hours of arguing, mooching about, slobbing infront of some screen or other and then finally, at bedtime they suddenly decide on what they want to do and then complain when I say 'get to bed now' .

I feel fit to be tied up I really do....

No problem if they are not related; if they are siblings, then YABU (where the U stands for unrealistic, or utopian, or something...).

I hear ya.

THis isnt a new phenomenon. When i lived at home 40 years ago, with my 4 siblings we always fought. Every minute of every day.

We were hideous to each other.

Fast forward to last year when my little sister and i cooked a christmas dinner together, our parents kept coming into the kitchen shaking their heads in disbelief and leaving.

My friend has the ideal solution though, when her kids fight and fall out, she says to them....whatever it is, is it worth sending 40 years not speaking to them? No, well go and sort it out then.

I hear ya.

This is a good example of how so few words can say so much Crowler , it's up there with Roy Scheider saying "We're going to need a bigger boat"

I hope people realise this is not a totally serious thread!

Yes, YABU and unrealistic. In fact im surprised they are even considering it. Cant imagine my 3 all settling down to play a game togeth on a Saturday afternoon.

YABU, at that age all they do is argue, and pick at each other, and get on each other's nerves. And then when you pull them up on it, they either 1) go all 'oh, but I didn't mean it that way' or 2) go all loved up with each other and claim you're ganging up on them both.

I'm going to trade mine in for a couple of hamsters.

Chocolate yes sounds familiar and reminds me that only yesterday DD (nearly 12yr) was waiting on DS 14yr hand and foot saying how he was the worlds most fantastic brother..