To not intervene re my dd's eating?

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My dd is 17 and due to ill health has been unable to do any sport/exercise for the last 18 months. Her eating levels have not reduced so she is now going from muscle to fat.

She knows about healthy eating and quantities. She comments on the muscle turning to fat whilst tucking into chocolate.

I know she's down due to lack of sport and I can't see me reminding her every time she eats something unhealthy that she's not burning it off, so I'm leaving her to it.

But now I am wondering if I am failing in my duty of care to her by not intervening. AIBU to leave her to it?

Weight is a constant battle for me five years into a chronic illness, and I'm certainly old enough to know better. It's a means of compensating and self comforting when everything else is too hard, painful and wrong, but beyond the momentary comfort it certainly doesn't help. Apart from anything else, every extra pound makes mobility even harder than it would be anyway. Is she using a wheelchair or is she able to walk? Can she do even two or three minutes gentle walking a few times a day, or if you go somewhere warm? My local garden centre has been my walking zone for years in bad weather. Or can she safely self propel a wheelchair somewhere safe and warm, even if it's for very short intervals? Would she be able to get into or out of the warm water spa pools at the Virgin gyms? Not to swim, but even walking in the support of the water is exercise. Might a physiotherapist be able to make some suggestions of safe movement in liaison with her doctors?

Eating conversations always have to be done so carefully, especially with a teenager not to turn it into an issue, (memories of my dm asking me for my camera when I was sixteen so she could take a picture of me to show me I was getting chubby......) but substituting low fat and healthier things to snack on as many posters have said, and limiting the amounts of it available between meals would very likely make a good difference. Poor girl, what a thing to have to deal with at seventeen and to have to watch her go through. Really hope you get some good medical answers and treatment soon.