To think 8 year old DS might be right?

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"What are you doing Dad?"
Looking at mumsnet. It's a website where mums and some dad's talk about useful things.
"You mean like how to make their kids behave better. That's crap and doesn't work".

Depends on your values I suppose. Crap is not a word I expect my 8 year old to use in front of me. I would find it very disrespectful.

Crap isn't a bad word in our house. It comes under the category of 'words you probably shouldn't say to the teacher' but I don't think it's a swear word.

Actually the word crap isn't that bad imo but the way he's used it is rude and lacking in respect

its not even the word crap - its the sentence itself.

Seems like your DS is a rude little boy. It's disrespectful to speak that way.

I accept that different folks have different rules but its no wonder kids do not know how to talk to adults in authority if they are allowed to speak like that to parents. Mind you, The words some parents use in front of & about their kids makes me and too.

old gimmer, that's me

DS thinks that word is a swear word and its not allowed here. I really dislike swearing so we dont do it but i have used that word myself once or twice but do try and avoid it.

I think peoples views on words and swearing vary an awful lot, some think nothing of using such words in front of children and some dont but if used in front of children its likely they will use them themselves.

I probably wouldn't say crap in front of my mum.

I am 41

Sometimes when I'm talking to either my parents or my PIL I will accidentally let out a swear word (usually shit or bloody) and I find myself automatically apologising to them I was bought up that swearing was a definite no-no when it came to talking to your elders. I still get told off by my mom if I say the word knackered I don't even know why it bothers her but for some reason she finds it really offensive so I try my hardest not to use it around her.

My children are beginning to try and drop in the odd swear word, 14 and 12, it does not go unnoticed, it really depends on the circumstance. Stubbing a toe or similar, it's hard not to swear at times. The statement told by op is disrespectful IMO. I think it always shows lack if intelligence when there are many other words they can use. They can save the toilet talk for their friends, which I'm sure they do anyway.

Jumping on the 'crap' wagon - surely most children have said the word at least once, before realizing/being told it is not an acceptable word for them to use? I don't really swear at all, and never in front of my DS, although I do say crap occasionally. My DS said it once, got told it wasn't a word he was old enough to use and has not said it (in my hearing) since.

My parents do not swear at all, but we all came out with swear words at some point in our childhoods. Again, only the once! My Dad actually told my 27-year-old sister for saying the word 'crap' in front of him recently. That made us smile.

If a child swears and isn't reprimanded, that's when you can get judgy.

*told my 27-year old sister off

I was on a thread once when the OP was rounded on for expressing shock that her 5 year old nephew was allowed to say 'Motherfucker' she was called naive!

I still don't think crap is that bad, I don't really class it as swearing.

It's not so much the word 'crap', which I think is in that middle ground between polite language and swearing, but the tone and implication of the boy's words. It suggests he thinks he can behave how he wants and his parents can't stop him. That his parent thinks it is funny suggests the boy is right...

The word crap is a swear word in this house too, hate swearing and my DDs would never have talked like that in front of me.

They're 22 and 20 and still get a telling off if they swear in my hearing!

I said crap once in front of my dad, without really knowing what it meant, I was only repeating something else, but I never made that mistake again.

Still hate swearing, and crude language, and I'm 46.

I remember my Autistic dd once stamping her foot and shouting 'Oh GOD MUM, have you been on a course ?? '

(( I had and it worked ))

I certainly don't consider 'crap' to be a swear word but it still isn't appropriate for a child to say. His entire comment sounds utterly obnoxious.

What's so wrong with "crap"? Sheesh!

I don't think there's anything wrong with "crap", in our house it just means a pile of stuff that needs throwing away/has fallen apart etc. It's also an alternative to "Oh god", (which I also don't have a problem with). Other words in our house which are acceptable; bloody, sod, bugger, jesus, christ almighty... If they start telling me to fuck off then I'll have a problem.

Also the sentence the boy came out with sounds exactly like something my 7 year old dd would say. Sounds a lot more tongue in cheek to me than rude and disrespectful.

I don't see the word crap as a swear word.
I often say things like tv is crap tonight or I have to get rid of all the crap in my drawers.
I don't think I'd have noticed if ds at that age had said it to me.