To rant about the lack of support on certain other parenting forums?

[EweHaveGoatToBeKiddin]

I'm screaming inside. I'm so angry.

Been having a read on another unnamed forum.

There is a woman there with reoccurring mental health problems. Very severe. She is being fed bull shit advice by other posters. Then her threads are pulled and we are told she is being 'supported behind the scenes'.

Only she's not. I've seen the site's 'support' in public view. I can't imagine their behind the scenes shit is any better.

This is someone's LIFE. She keeps getting sectioned. She keeps trying to kill herself. She keeps imagining she is pregnant through all manner of unlikely events.

So how the hell is pulling her threads and undoubtedly giving her the number for CAB through private mail going to help?

It just pisses me off to no end that she posts there rather than here.

I've had a very shit day indeed and this has just made me well up like a right sad git. She is so unwell and is reaching out for support and getting none. On all her other older threads, i tried to write decent advice. It was deleted. I was told not to give advice that might be misconstrued as coming from a professional angle. I made no mention of anything professional. I had advised her from personal experiences of grief etc.

I just want to scream at her to come over here. Nothing aggressive about that site, just that i thought she'd get better advice over here. Again, i did that last time round and was banned for a month.

So... aibu to think certain other sites should really review their amazing 'support network' they advertise themselves to have, when in reality it doesn't exist?

don't drag grievances across the internet

tittle tattle 'they did this, they did that' - and? so?

and ofc, not all is what it seems, on the interwebulator, is it? the poster may well be spinning a line, the mods on that site are onto it, you never know

This is a difficult one - I have received loads of support on here for mental health issues. I post on a thread that was set up for ongoing support and its really helpful and supportive, so by all means send her on over.

But, and this is a big but - we are mostly, just strangers on the internet, that mean well, may have shared experiences and can empathise and offer advice in terms of where she can find RL support. She sounds quite unwell and like she is undergoing some kind of psychosis with the pregnancy fantasies. Could it be that the site moderators feel that well meaning advice could do more harm than good in this instance?

I really hope that she gets the help and support she needs, poor woman, sounds really difficult.

You sound very caring and i do understand your frustrations. I often post on the MH board as i have recieved so much support there and like to think i can help in some small way, but i will sometimes not post for fear of saying the wrong thing to someone vulnerable. Its a pretty fine line.

It is very difficult to comment on your example OP without having first hand knowledge.

In theory though, yes, 'support networks' should be reviewed.

I'm just letting off some steam, since i can't do it there. I've been careful not to name anything specifically.

This person would have been banned years ago if it was a troll. I firmly believe the issues are very real and the site's 'support network' is not equipped to deal with it.

I therefore think it's unwise that they try to give advice to a suicidal woman because their advice is just shit.

I don't think it should be allowed. I've told them that several times through email and have never received a reply.

Can you post links to something you feel would be helpful or PM her?

Can you maybe point her towards the beating the beast forum. It's hardcore and dedicated to mental health problems.

sigh

look I'll try again

don't slag other forums

if it's really bothering you then switch off because you absolutely cannot help this person in any way shape or form, put down your Rescuer Cloak and think about why you are over-investing in a random's tales of woe

Pedlars sometimes forums can help people though. They offer a form of conversation, people can offer information to help or just show kindness and support.

Honestly, I think you need to calm down, I'm sorry but I think you sound far too involved and hysterical.

Ugh, I hate it when people call someone else hysterical or tell them to calm down when they are clearly calm. So patronising. OP is obviously having strong feelings about this woman and her potential situation. It does not make her hysterical.

Sorry but I do think its quite hysterical to post about screaming, being pissed off and so on over posts on the Internet.

Hysterical or not, I don't think that is the point.

The OP has said what has concerned her. Yes there might not be much she can do but for closure she might feel the need to do all she can or at least make people aware of what she sees as a problem concerning a 'support network' on another site.

Something which is worthy of discussion at least.

Op you should take it down a notch.
There could be many reasons why the thread was pulled. Even due to the advice being given may not be good advice.