I probably am, but....

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DD (3) was diagnosed with a UTI yesterday evening and is on amoxicillin. She is fine in herself, certainly no more off colour than she would be froma mild cold.

I emailed her nursery to see whether they will administer her antibiotics at lunchtime. Like a flipping idiot I told them when she had been diagnosed. They have a policy that children who are on antibiotics are only allowed back to nursery after they have been on them for 48 hours.

She is pretty much fine in herself and a UTI is not contagious or infectious to others. She will have been on antibiotics for 38 hours by the time nursery starts. AIBU to think that this policy needs to have more flexibility built into it, to feel pissed off (pun intended), and irritated with myself for not reading the sodding policy first and then lying about the timing?

I know I probably am being a bit U, etc etc etc. But she will be fine and is not a risk.

Arse.

Iwish - because I hadn't been aware of it beforehand. Yes, perhaps I am at fault in that I didn't go through all their policies with a finetooth comb at the time of signing, didn't research all of them, and object to/discuss those that did not seem to be evidence-based. But, you know what? Most of the time and for most of us, life just isn't like that. There's all sorts of stuff that I didn't think about critically and that I didn't want to care about and didn't want to change until it affected me personally. I don't think that makes a selfish thoughtless bitch or that it means that the timing of my changed attitude is somehow suspicious. It's that, up until that point, I had not been fully aware of those facts.

When I enrolled DD at nursery I was extremely unwell, having fairly recently had the first of what turned out to be 3 major operations to correct severe multiple birth injuries. At that point my descent into severe PTSD was beginning. I believe I made the right decision for my daughter in enrolling her in that nursery, and she remains happy. I expended as much energy as I was able to on researching and visiting nurseries before making my decision. But, I did not have the energy to go through each and every one of their policies and see if they were evidence-based and accorded with official guidelines. Frankly, and as I explained earlier, it did not occur to me to do that.

It seems that you have no objection to challenging the policy, and that you are not arguing that it is necessary. The only thing you object to and that you are trying to turn into an issue is the timing of my objection. It seems that you think that the fact that I did not campaign for it to be overturned as soon as I received the enrolment papers, somehow makes me suspect. I wasn't properly aware of the devastating impact that childbirth can have until I experienced it myself. Is my decision to try and help other women suffering similarly also suspect and worthy of criticism?

Iwish - I have a friend whose DS has a panoply of extremely severe physical and intellectual disabilities. She now works as a volunteer for a charity - her role is to help families of such children negotiate their way through the benefits and education system to secure the best possible care and education for their children. She works bloody hard, is very tenacious and has helped many people.

I think she is amazing. She thinks she is just doing what needs to be done. Presumably you, on the other hand, view her with suspicion and are critical of her achievements and desires to help people on the grounds that before she had her DS she was unaware of the challenges that children with disabilities and their families face and that, consequently, she did nothing to help. What would you prefer her to have done? Thought to herself that she shouldn't get involved on the grounds that it was personal interest and experience that initially prompted her?

Blimey OP! Where on earth did all of that come from?

I was simply wondering why it only became apparent to you now that this policy (which is indeed a pita) was likely to be so troublesome. I have queried (and changed) policies with CM's before signing my dc up to be cared for by them.

I missed the part that you'd not read it before you enrolled her. So be it. We all have different challenges to deal with at any given time and yours were so great at that time that reading policies wasn't top of your agenda. That's new information to me.

I'm sorry if I've caused you any upset. That was never my intention.

I have to say that it is quite possible for a child to seem fine at home in a one-to-one environment with their parent/carer, but they would not cope with a busy nursery environment where they are expected to be able to compromise, negotiate and play with a large number of other children and follow group routines.

At the nursery where I work, we trust parents to bear this in mind when they send their children into nursery. If they leave their child at nursery, and we feel they are not well enough to be there, then we will phone them and ask them to come and collect them and take them home again.

it is quite possible for a child to seem fine at home in a one-to-one environment with their parent/carer, but they would not cope with a busy nursery environment

Absolutely! Especially of the parent has dosed them up on Calpol at breakfast time

However that isn't really linked to whether they are taking antibiotics.

No Goldmandra, I agree it's not linked specifically to antibiotics, and at the nursery where I work we don't have rule such as the OP outlined. However, I can only presume that the OP's nursery has had a problem in the past with parents sending their children back to nursery when they are still unwell (but possibly full of calpol ) and have introduced this rule in response.