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To be getting irritated with texts now I'm past my due date?

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pianodoodle · 31/12/2013 11:24

I knew I shouldn't have told anyone my due date was Christmas Day. I should have learned from last time when DD didn't arrive until 42 weeks!

I've been a very pleasant pregnant person so far. Very well behaved, no rants, haven't been too irritable at all... but now the texts are coming and it's making me very twitchy!

"Any news yet?" "Any twinges?"

Now these aren't from people I never see they are from people I love dearly who know fine well they will be the very first to know if anything happens.

In fact one of them is our lift to the hospital so if I had "any news" it would be pretty odd of me not to phone Grin

I've been up all night running back and forward to the loo, everything hurts and DD (2) is trying to climb on my back.

WIBU to use the fact that I've been very patient so far as an excuse to go on some sort of mad rampage the next time my phone beeps? :)

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MyNameIsWinkly · 31/12/2013 11:26

This is why I've fibbed about my due date - instead of telling people "the end of June" I've said "the start of July" - hopefully they'll get July in their heads and leave me be for a few extra days :)

Until then, send them this link: haveyouhadthatbabyyet.com/

RenterNomad · 31/12/2013 11:28

Yes, try a "Stop waking mr up wuth he damed texting! Trying to rest." communication.

Good luck!

DIYapprentice · 31/12/2013 11:28

Oh you poor thing! I was driven demented by this, and flatly refused to answer the phone or texts - DS1 was 12 days late.

I told DH that if I had to talk to anyone I would give them such a mouthful that I probably wouldn't be on speaking terms with them ever again, so could he please tell them to all just piss off and wait for US to let them know after the event.

JellyBabiesSaveLives · 31/12/2013 11:29

Just enjoy yourself with reply texts.

Them:Any news?
You:Yes!
Them:What? What?
Them:Are you in labour?
Them:Is it happening?
Them:Tell me!
You:Oh that sort of news. No, I meant look at who got OBEs ...

Them:Any twinges?
You:Yes!
Them:What? What?
Them:Are you in labour?
Them:Is it happening?
Them:Tell me!
You:Oh sorry. I stubbed my toe. It twinges.

Or tell them you're definitely in labour and you need them to collect dd NOW. Have a nice rest and then call later and say "false alarm".

RenterNomad · 31/12/2013 11:29

Er... and try spelling better than I did, too!

Sorry! Xmas Blush

Danann · 31/12/2013 11:29

YANBU people should realise that 'any news yet?' is right up there with 'ooh you've got big' and touching bump every 10 seconds, my youngest is 5 and I still have anger filled memories of people doing these things.

Wevet · 31/12/2013 11:29

Just go incommunicado.

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pianodoodle · 31/12/2013 11:31

Love it!

I really should have done that too especially as I'm not convinced Christmas Day was even right.

The 12 week scan changed it to 25th Dec even though the dates from my period made it 2nd January.

I know they say the scan is a more accurate estimate but it really confuses me trying to work out how they arrive at the dates!

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pianodoodle · 31/12/2013 11:32

That was to winkly's link - I'm copying it now!

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pianodoodle · 31/12/2013 11:36

And what are these "twinges" they speak of anyway? Those texts are all coming from the men Grin

I could just switch off the phone but then they might land round at the front door!

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FrankAndFurt · 31/12/2013 11:43

Just tell them that your DD has been changed to the 12th January or something so don't expect any news for a while.

StephenKatzCrackerHat · 31/12/2013 11:48

Oh yes, I had the baby last week, didn't I tell you? D'oh! - Is all you need to send!

openerofjars · 31/12/2013 11:49

Or send them a really overly grossly explicit text about how you think you've lost a bit of mucous plug, but it wasn't really like you were expecting, more like this image you found on Google (and do send them a link). That ought to do it.

You have my sympathies: it drove me batshit crazy with both DC. With DC2 we didn't tell anyone when I did go into labour as we knew that certain family members would be phoning the hospitals on the hour every hour, so for goodness sakes do not let the buggers get used to updates from you.

I may have done intermittent Facebook updates along the lines of "Not in labour today, leave me be". Blush

HabitualHobbyist · 31/12/2013 11:54

My friend gave everyone one text/call to ask her 'any news' and made it clear they should use it wisely. She forgot to include Facebook messages in that though and her DSM made full use of that instead!!

peppinagiro · 31/12/2013 11:55

Drove me nuts too, and my DD was only 5 days overdue! I did resort to some really snarky 'yeah, had her last week, just forgot to mention it' type replies. Then I just went incommunicado, but that made it worse - I got follow up ones going 'does the fact you're not replying mean you're in labour?!'. WTAF?!? I did cut them some slack when it was someone young and childless, but when it was someone who had had a baby, and recently, I was irate. Could they not remember how fecking annoying it was?!

oskie84uk · 31/12/2013 12:00

Yanbu! Tell the buggers to piss off! Except your lift to the hospital that is!

GhoulWithADragonTattoo · 31/12/2013 12:05

I'd turn the ringer off. Or just reply with a simple 'nope'. It's annoying but people are only asking because they care. Hope your baby arrives soon :)

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pianodoodle · 31/12/2013 12:14

You've all cheered me up thank you!

I'm putting phone on silent for a bit so we can have lunch in peace :)

I did think about sending news about having a sore arse from all the toilet running but I don't really want to be mean to people - it's just funny to think about doing it though!

Some top class parenting going on here this morning. "Have another gingerbread man - no, here have two. Oh look - Justin's House is on!"

Maybe a walk after lunch and leave my phone at home will make the time go faster :)

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Sallystyle · 31/12/2013 12:18

My niece is 4 days overdue.

I keep asking her if she has any signs.

But to be fair, she does keep telling me she thinks she is in labour all the time and has done for two weeks.

RestingActress · 31/12/2013 12:35

Any twinges OP Wink

YANBU at all, this used to drive me up the wall, and as people would call rather than text (it was a relatively new-ish thing when I was pg with DS) then there was no peace.

smearedinfood · 31/12/2013 14:39

With DS, I had 6 hours of contractions on the day he was due, then nothing for 3 days. The texts drew 'the rage' from me. I was just stomping around the house swearing for three days until my waters broke.

So I've just said some time in May this time around.Grin

Pigsmummy · 31/12/2013 14:40

Put some sudocream on your sore bum and put phone on silent. Good luck OP. can you report back (prob next week after a few "twinges") about your new arrival xx

SS3J · 31/12/2013 14:44

Actually I never minded those texts. It's only because people are excited for you!

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pianodoodle · 31/12/2013 15:25

Haha pigsmummy I did Blush

I had period type pains constantly for over a week before DD arrived - she was just warming up really!

Same this time - but it could easily go on for another week again so there's no point telling everyone and getting their hopes up too soon or I wouldn't hear the end of it!

DH has come home from work and thinks I've earned a rampage but since he's making me a cheese toastie I might defer it for a while :)

I'm hoping I remember how annoying certain things are if it's ever my turn to be the excited relative. Maybe after a length of time passes you just forget and some day I'll be on the phone to my daughter asking her if she's tried a hot curry...

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