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To buy parents monogrammed towels?

43 replies

Donotgothere · 31/12/2013 01:41

When DH & I had our bathroom renovated last year, we decided to buy new towels. One colour for him, one colour for me, one colour for guests. We did this as previously when all towels were the same colour, we'd forget who had been using which towel hung on the bathroom radiator. Not a problem really if just I & my husband were at home but neither of us liked the idea of using a towel used by our guests and vice versa.

Every time my parents visit i put out fresh guest towels on their bed for them to use but instead, every time, they go into our airing cupboard & help themselves to the towels in the colour my husband & I use, leaving them on the bathroom radiator after use meaning when we go into the bathroom, we don't know whose towel is whose & we have to get yet more clean towels out for use (call me precious but I don't want to use a towel my dad has used to dry his bits on!!)

Even worse, my dad has a nasty habit of just grabbing whatever used towel is drying on the bathroom radiator when he is in there which I don't understand and find a bit gross. I tell them every time that I've left them clean towels on the bed and every time I'm ignored. Maybe I'm just being a bit control freakish over this but I know it pisses my husband off that he can't even have his own towel in his own house & I think the whole thing is just a bit unhygienic.

I know in the grand scheme of things this is a non-issue but it annoys me that they don't listen and disregard my wishes in my own home. I wouldn't dream of doing it in their house. So now I'm wondering AIBU to buy them a set of towels with dad's name & mum's name in big letters all over them to keep at my house in the hope they finally get the message and stop using my towels??

My parents are great & I love them very much, I just don't get why they can't use our perfectly clean, soft and lovely guest towels. Am I missing something?!

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HissymasJumper · 31/12/2013 15:32

Have you actually said 'Don't use any other towels than the ones i've given you'?

diddl · 31/12/2013 15:59

Or indeed asked them why they don't use the towels that you leave out?

Do they control/have no resoect in other areas?

What happens about towels when you stay with them?

diddl · 31/12/2013 16:01

Forgot to ask-what do they do with the towels you put out?

Is it that they want to choose their own-in which case let them-then keep yours seperate & make sure that they can't get any others!

Airing cupboard lock??!!

Donotgothere · 31/12/2013 16:36

I say to them every time the stay that I've left clean towels on the bed for them to use. I even once threw a mini-wobbler with mum when she had my hand towel on her head as a turban to dry her hair, leaving her own perfectly good, clean towel in their room but it doesn't seem to sink in. I don't think they're purposefully rude, I just think they're a bit more relaxed about these things. Sometimes if they're not having a bath on the day they arrive, they'll put their guest towels back into the airing cupboard but when they want to have a bath/shower, they'll take my or DH's clean towels back out of the during cupboard, completely ignoring the towels I've asked them to use.

Maybe I'm just too anal? I don't know? I just get really pissed off that they can't follow a simple instruction - please use these towels, the red ones are mine, the blue ones are DH's... FGS it's not rocket science.

Have now decided I'm clearing out the airing cupboard & storing towels elsewhere, leaving them no choice but to use the towels left out for them. I know it's petty but it's not the point! I wouldn't dream of doing it someone else's house!

I have to let this go now & not let it ruin my new year! Smile

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HissymasJumper · 31/12/2013 16:39

Well then, personalised towels won't work either.

Not having them stay might though... [helpful] :)

oldgrandmama · 31/12/2013 16:53

Sorry ... I'm laughing. Yes, only leave 'their' towels in the bathroom. Empty the airing cupboard. I agree that monogrammed towels won't work, by the way.

Now casting my mind back to when DD, DS and their spouses and kids stay ... I leave towels out for them but for the life of me, don't know who uses what - I have four bathrooms [hides head in shame].

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ReallyOverThis · 01/01/2014 05:55

there's a big difference between " I've left clean towels out for you" and "do NOT use any towels other than these ones - we feel very strongly about this, I repeat, USE ONLY THE ONES WE GAVE YOU"

If you have really, genuinely said the latter then I am afraid that they are obviously deliberately fucking with you.

DoJo · 01/01/2014 21:42

What did they say when you asked them why they weren't using the towels you gave them?

Sesquipedality · 01/01/2014 21:46

Seriously.

Really.

I just can't quite believe this thread.

Sesquipedality · 01/01/2014 21:49

In fact this is so ridiculous I'm going to recommend this for buzzfeed's middle class problems.

Sesquipedality · 01/01/2014 21:52

On second thoughts. I'll just be a little bit sick.

Though I am at someone else house.

Think I'll just wipe the last bits off my face on this nice monogrammed towel.

Oswald68 · 01/01/2014 22:04

This is a serious issue. See the thread on relationships about one DH masturbating in the shower!

Donotgothere · 01/01/2014 22:05

What's the problem Sesquipedality? I did say somewhere that this is a non-issue in the grand scheme of things... It's no more ridiculous than other things I've read on AIBU. Some people agreed I have the right to be annoyed, others have told me to stop being so anal... Fair enough. Forgive me for not wanting to dry my face on a towel that's been wrapped around someone else's genitalia!!

Problem solved now, they've gone home & my towel is safe until next time!! (I wasn't actually going to buy monogrammed towels... It's called being tongue in cheek...)

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Sesquipedality · 01/01/2014 22:08

I always take monogrammed towels and people's arses seriously.

JohnCusacksWife · 01/01/2014 23:42

Is this thread for real?? Never has so much angst been wasted on something so trivial....

Slatecross · 01/01/2014 23:52

Anyone else thinking of Val and Harvey Denton?

VAL DENTON 

Then there's the towels. White for hands, brown for feet, green for torso, thighs and seat. And in the cupboard beneath the stair...
HARVEY DENTON
...you'll find the red for pubic hair.

Donotgothere · 02/01/2014 04:17

Brilliant Slatecross! I love league of gentleman! Am I really that bad? I just want to be able to leave my own towel on the towel dryer thingy we went to the effort to install in our new bathroom & not to have to share it.

BTW I'm only up so early because I've been feeding our new baby (who has their own yellow towels...) and not because I'm sorting out my airing cupboard Smile

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