My 14 year old (year 10) cousin came to me yesterday terrified as she was late on her period. I got her a test, it came back negative and she said she came on this morning.
I asked if the condom had broken, she said he pulls out instead of using them as they don't work. I asked if she was on the pill and she said no because it made her friends bleed randomly and gain weight.
She said she'd googled pulling out and that it is 'fine as long as he pulls out really early'. She has now said she will use condoms and doesn't want to go on the pill but I have a feeling she's only said this to keep me quiet because of me going on at her, as she spent a while trying to convince me pulling out was fine first.
I feel like I should talk to her mum, as I know I'd want to know if it was my DD, and will feel responsible if she does get pregnant and I've done nothing. But equally I think she may well listen to her mum even less than me, and don't want to make her feel unable to come to me in the future if she ends up in a similar situation.