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AIBU?

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AIBU re: DD's immunisations???

25 replies

Babycino81 · 30/12/2013 20:13

Don't want to drip feed so background is DH works away, has been away for 12 week old DDs first Christmas, NYE, wedding anniversary etc. When he comes home, he wants to visit his parents ( this isn't a problem at all) who live 200 miles away. However he is asking me to delay DD's second lot of needles by a week to fit this trip in as he is going skiing for four days and we're restricted about when we can see his family friends etc.

DD reacted quite badly to the first lot of imms and I'm not willing For her to travel the dy after her needles (these are the only alternative dates), AIBU in telling him to fucking grow up and put his daughters needs first? Is the schedule of injections as rigid as my doctor has told me and in over reacting??? All advice welcome

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Dawndonnaagain · 30/12/2013 20:15

Crikey, no, they're not that rigid. My dd reacted badly to some of hers, it was four years before she had the next lot. They're often delayed if babies are snuffly or poorly, so really nothing to worry about.

Liara · 30/12/2013 20:16

The schedule of injections varies widely from country to country, the UK has one of the more aggressive ones (the vaccines are given earlier and closer together).

The vaccine schedule has more to do with the health service's ability to monitor that the vaccines are being given and their estimation of when the parents are most likely to take them up than with any real medical need.

I would just delay them for a month or so, until the holidays are over.

BarbarianMum · 30/12/2013 20:16

I wasn't aware they were that rigid tbh - but I'm not a doctor. Might be worth checking - we delayed ds1's because he was just getting over a tummy bug and no-one suggested that was a prob. I thought they were rigid to ensure you go back for round 2, rather than because timing was critical.

TidyDancer · 30/12/2013 20:22

I don't remember them being that rigid. Could you get an opinion from another doctor?

Twinklestarstwinklestars · 30/12/2013 20:23

My ds3 was weeks out due it nurse shortages, I think he had his 16 week ones at 20 or 21 weeks

softlysoftly · 30/12/2013 20:25

I would and have delayed them it's not that rigid.

But why on earth is he buggering off skiing for 4 days when he already spends so much time away? Can't you go?

SoonToBeSix · 30/12/2013 20:27

No they are not rigid at all just let her have them a few weeks later.

Ragusa · 30/12/2013 20:30

It's only a week. She'll be fine.

Ragusa · 30/12/2013 20:30

It's only a week. She'll be fine.

Ragusa · 30/12/2013 20:30

It's only a week. She'll be fine.

Ragusa · 30/12/2013 20:30

It's only a week. She'll be fine.

Musicaltheatremum · 30/12/2013 20:38

As Ragusa said. She'll be fine.
Babies are often out by a few weeks. You have started the course so they can be delayed without harm.

FudgeyCookie · 30/12/2013 20:40

I've delayed DD's each and every time! She had a cold/temperature every time they were scheduled, and the first time she kept being sick, so I rearranged under HV advice. Turns out it was reflux, but the receptionist and nurses told me I was doing the right thin cancelling when she had a temp or cold, so that I could be sure if she was reacting to imms, rather than thinking it was her cold.

However, I don't think I'd rearrange on dp's wish just because he's going skiing

Ragusa · 30/12/2013 20:42

I have no idea why that posted millions of times - sorry .

If it's really important to you, then you could always have it done in a surgery near your in-laws. You can enquire about being registered as a temporary patient.

BeerTricksPotter · 30/12/2013 20:49

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Shelby2010 · 30/12/2013 20:58

The only one you might need to watch out for is the new rotavirus vaccine as they won't give that one after 24 weeks due to increased risk of side effects.

BoysiesBack · 30/12/2013 21:18

The only 'rule' is that there should be at least 4 weeks between each set, but the 8/12/16 weeks thing isn't set in stone at all. My DS had his at 9/15/22 weeks simply because that was when the surgery could fit him in. No harm at all in rearranging them to fit with your schedule.

HOMEQCRICH · 30/12/2013 21:30

Ask your gp

Earlspearl · 30/12/2013 22:06

It's not rigid. Relax a little

somethingchristmassy · 30/12/2013 22:10

One of my children's were delayed by 5 weeks because the health vistors were "behind". They're not rigid, enjoy your time away. But why is your dh going ski-ing with his time off and not spending it with you?

WhereYouLeftIt · 30/12/2013 22:29

This isn't really about the injections, is it, OP?

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Babycino81 · 30/12/2013 22:58

The whole skiing thing is his Christmas birthday and anniversary present from me and he wanted me and DD to go but as I've been before, I can't imagine spending four days in a hotel with a baby on my own in the cold much fun (the hotel is quite basic re: facilities) so the trip away isn't the issue per say. I think the issue is about changing things to suit him but I'll phone the GP tomorrow and ask for it o be clarified why they've told me that the given appointment is the last day she can have the jabs. Thanks for the advice, I probably am being anxious as she's my first baby and not been in this situation before x

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Ragusa · 30/12/2013 23:20

Perhaps they meant it was the last day they can get her in for the foreseeable future (shortage of appointments) or they are anticipating running out of stocks of the vaccines and they can't seem to source more...

Really, it's not that crucial she has the jabs bang on date. The issue is having them too close together or waaay too far apart. The first might mean immunity doesn't develop; the second might mean your baby's exposed to nasty illnesses for longer than necessary.

It can be difficult IME to get appts for jabs. Our GP will. not. do. them. and the nurse who does is very part-time.

Re the skiing, shame DP not going somewhere a bit more luxe: it can be great being in a nice kinderhotel with a bub and plenty of help on hand to take your baby for a few hours ;) if you're up for it. Make him choose one of these hotels next time

breatheslowly · 30/12/2013 23:25

I think that they may have targets to meet - so will be able to work around your schedule as long as you get them done. I've found our GP's surgery to be very accommodating.

Aquariusgirl86 · 30/12/2013 23:29

I don't think they are that rigid? My cd 2 had each of the 3 sets done at a different part of the country due to a house move / relocation going wrong, by the time he was registered at each place we were out of sync and behind, no one seemed concerned at all they just wanted to know that I would her them done

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