To feel a bit upset

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Dd is 2.2 and I took her and my 2 boys 6 and 4 to a soft play zone today. Dd was in the under 3 bit and the supervisor woman took 2 squashy shapes out of her hand and said "these are for the little ones". I was a bit and said well she is only little. She told me the area was for under 3s. I told her she is just 2 and the woman stared at her and said well she looks like an odd 2 year old and stalked off taking shapes with her
Dd is 92cm and on 91st centile but honestly this woman really upset me.

So you retrieved the shapes and gave them back to your daughter?

In fairness, your daughter may look older than 2, without seeing her I would not know. But once you the adult explained she was only two, you should have then got the shapes back for your daughter.

Once the woman was told, she should have given the shapes back. I would have stood my ground and insisted on it.

Did she really say she looked like an 'odd 2 year old'? That's a peculiar thing to come out with when it's obviously just a case that she looks older than she is! Some people clearly lead sheltered lives...

next time someone does something like this, ask them how old they are and then say "oh, I thought you were a lot older than that, you look older" then smile and walk off.

I hate soft play areas. The people that work there always seem grumpy. Shame my kids love them so much.

She sounds like a twat, I would just ignore the place and email them and tell them why.

Unfortunately, if you have tall children you'll get a lot of this.

92cm is the height on clothes aged 18-24 months.

She was an unpleasant creature, who obviously hadn't had her fill of being a cow today so chose you.

YANBU, did you complain?

I have had the same thing with my daughter throughout her life as she's above the 91st gentile for height. People expect her to be well above her age in behaviour and knowledge but that's just the way it is so I got used to it. Doesn't help that if she'd been born 2 weeks later she'd have been in the following school year.

I've had this with DD (giantess that she is). Someone on here said they get, "robbed of their babyhood" and I agree. Their behaviour is scrutinised more, more is expected of them. It's sad really. Also, that women was a rotten person.

Do people still go to soft play, even at this time of year? They are the centre of the Norovirus universe and anyone who uses them deserves everything they get.

Tell what happened on their Facebook page, that'd be interesting to see if they respond

DS is huge so we regularly get funny looks with people expecting him to show more mature behaviour than he is able. He is 2.5 but would easily pass as a year older. I am just used to it TBH, fortunately he is too young to realise anything.

LaGuardia....

Really?

LaGuardia

NotNow that woman sounds like a giant twat weasel. YANBU.

DD1 is almost 5 but wears age 6-7 clothes. She's in the healthy weight range for her height, so not overweight at all, just really tall.

Its been like this since she was born and I often catch people giving her funny looks, because she looks older than she is. She is also quite chatty and mature when you take her on face value, but is still behaving like other 4/5 year olds.

The woman was nasty, but its best not to dwell on these things.

We have this with dd who is 3 and in age 5/6 clothes. Literally towers over all the 5 year olds at nursery, just really tall. We constantly get "aren't you at school today" or questioning her age at theme parks etc....
It's upsetting....sounds like that woman's in the wrong job.

My dd was 98 centile for height, you have my sympathy!!

DS is 98th, I feel your pain!

The woman was out of order. If she thoughr your child was too old she could have just pointed out to you that it was an under 3s area imstead of taking the toys. It's not like your DD was a 7yo running around stomping on babies.