aibu to not want to have this sleepover..

[formerbabe]

Keeping this deliberately vague. I have a friend who looked after my ds overnight...her DC gets on well with mine and same ages. I told her at the time that I would reciprocate the favour so she could have a night out in January. I am now dreading agreeing to this. Her ds is very badly behaved. He swears, breaks things and goes to bed very late and wakes early. He doesn't get told off much at home and unlike mmost children, he doesn't seem bothered if told off by friends or those outside of family. Do I just take a deep breath and do it? HELP!

I think you are going to have to do it as you are doing her a favour, rather than having the child for a sleepover for fun. If you see what I mean.

When my dd had a sleepover for her ninth birthday it was hell on earth, but we looked at it like a job that we had to do.

I would let them on as many screens as they want for as long as possible. I would feed them pizza and popcorn as most dc will eat that but it's not jammed with E numbers.

Why on earth did you send your child to have a sleepover with a child who behaves like that in the first place and doubly so when you know you had to reciprocate. Our eldest went for a sleepover where the child was like that (not our idea or choice) he watched pretty violent horror movies and they drank beer. He was 11 at the time but really still not old enough to be watching R18 movies. He says he only pretended to drink and I believe him. He was rather shook up by it all.

The parents were at home and up. They just never said no to this boy.

Be very clear that your house means your rules, it will be a challenging experience if you are used to following a schedule with your dc.

It maybe helpful to use a visual timetable when the boy comes over. Just download some simple pictures of a typical daily routine, cut them up & stick on a piece of card. It helps kids to focus on a routine, what's coming next & then get one of the kids to remove an image when the task is completed.

As other posters have said you are returning a favour but you can structure it so he doesn't have many opportunities to have a meltdown.

Limit the choices that he has for eg 1 pudding instead of pudding a or b. Outdoor activities so you tire him out in the park & hopefully he will have a sleep.

Good luck.

Thank you for the tips...I took him out on a day trip once and he was a nightmare, and just doesn't listen. I don't know whether to bring the issue up with his mum before he comes over?!

I loathe sleepovers.

TBH, if OP thinks that she will struggle, I don't see why she has to do it!

Is a trial run possible whilst she is at home?

Have him for a couple of hrs, send him home & tell her that you've realised a sleepover won't work?

I am very strict at home with bedtimes...my kids go to bed at 7.30 and sleep for 12 hours straight...I literally cannot cope with kids not sleeping!

Got to ask why would would send your child to stay at this persons house if her child acts like this?

Sorry but I would say suck it up a hide the china.