So my friend is getting married in 2015 out of a close group of 5 friends she asked one of us to be a bridesmaid (and she asked a family member on the grooms side)
Fair enough, I was a little disappointed not to be asked but I completely understand how these things can get out of hand and you could end up having a ridiculous amount of people just so you don't offend anyone.
The friend who was asked to be bridesmaid told me that she now had her dress. When I saw the bride I asked her about the dresses - what colour style she had gone for and she showed me a photo and explained she'd asked another friend of hers to be a bridesmaid as this friend has recently gone through a divorce and because of all the stress she'd been under thats why she was asked at a later date.
I mentioned this to a mutual friend, who then told me that actually there was a 4th bridesmaid who is out of our close group of friends... but she wasn't suppose to know this either.
I just don't understand the secrecy of it all. As surely it would be noticeable on the day and it sort of seems to be creating a drama out of nothing especially when I asked her about the dresses as it would have been the perfect opportunity to say then.
Sorry I know this is a first world war problem and I will be handed many grips. I'm just offended by the secrecy, not upset or offended about not being a bridesmaid.