Or is my DH taking the piss?

[Knackeredmum13]

Last night was our first night of trying to get our five month old to start sleep training. The aim is to get him to bed at a reasonable time and to start encouraging him to go back to sleep instead of being fed every two hours throughout the night.

I put the baby to bed at 7.30 and then went and resettled him when he woke at 9. I then fed him when he woke at 11pm. I went to bed myself at 11.30 but was awake until about 2am as the baby was unsettled. DH stayed up until after 2 playing on his x box. I fed the baby again at 3.30 and then again when he woke at 5.30 and wouldn't settle. DH tried to move into the spare room but I shouted at him and so he didnt. I managed to get the baby back to sleep.

DS woke for the day at around quarter to 7 and I ignored him so DH was forced to get up with him. I got up myself at 9.30 and DH went back to bed and is still there. Am I unreasonable to be fucking furious? I've been up half the night with the baby while he plays games and yet he is the one spending half of the day in bed!?

It does seem rather immature to be playing x box games at 2.00am, unless of course he is 17!

Even if you didn't have a baby I would find it very immature of a partner to be on his x box at that time of a morning!

Is he able to play it at any other time?

I'm not saying you give all your hobbies up when you have a baby but not going to bed and playing games in the early hours of the morning that renders you tired and irritable the next day is not compatible with raising children.

Even if he was an insomniac, there is no excuse or reason for that matter to be on a bloody x box unless he is a teenager!

Why is he playing XBox until 2 am? Couldn't DH have settled the baby between 11.30 and 2am as he was up anyway? He got up with the baby at 7 so I'm assuming feeding isn't an issue.
YANBU

He was on it most of the bloody day yesterday too.

I feel like going in and shouting at him. I'm so bloody fed up.

He should have been helping out while he was still up

I'd be fuming too!

Well we've just had a massive row. I asked him if he was ever getting up and told him he was acting as though this was his holiday and he said "well it is".
Unbelievable

If possible get yourself out for the afternoon. He will then be forced to do his parental duties. Stuff like this really grinds my gears! My oh used his 2 weeks paternity leave as a chance to socialise with his friends and not do any parenting

He has already taken the baby off me as apparently they don't need me.

He is claiming that I'm acting like a child and won't talk rationally to him. Yet when I say he isn't doing enough he starts shouting about how he is a bastard who does nothing. I've said over and over again that I'm not saying that he does nothing but that he isn't doing the "loads" that he claims. How can we discuss it if he won't see the distinction between loads and nothing? The only time I get a break is when I explode with rage.