think i issued the invitation of last resort...

[Oddsocksrus]

We were planning to have a new years eve party, we invited a few friends several weeks ago. This wasn't a paper invite with an RSVP or anything but a mix of fb messages, text or face to face invites.

I've just sent a reminder to 10 out of the 12 invitees as I need to go shopping and start making things ready if they are coming....

AIBU to feel really down about this, I feel like the hostess with the least frankly, I guess they all live in hope of something better coming along which is why they are 'all double checking' with their other halves

An early night Chez Odds methinks

Well.....don't feel down...sometimes invitations only suit one half of a couple and it's nothing against you. DH and I were invited by another couple to spend the evening with them....as they know we often choose to stay home....I was quite keen but DH doesn't like being pinned down and wanted to keep his options open a bit....I sort of accepted....and then DH has been offered the chance to work....so I've told my friends he's not decided...it's rude....I'm in a turmoil about it as I feel I need to let my mates down....but really, she's MY mate....her DH isn't mine OR my DHs mate...so it will be a bit forced...I think I'drather stay home!

I think NY is one of those times where people sometimes feel a lot of pressure....but to me, it's always a shocker of a night. I've dione it all....house parties, clubs, pubs, restaurants and boats and the night feels forced and depressing to me. I like staying in and thinking over my resolutions....I don't even mind being alone....I like it!

I think OP that you shouldlan for a night with maybe half that you asked...if you don't hear back by the end of monday, then assume they're not coming.

Sometimes checking with your partner means you need to encourage your partner to actually get out and go to a party you want to go to.

Could be worse. I've had the "We'll let you know!" Which means "We'll just hang on to see if we get a better offer/can be arsed."

We have about 3 people coming round now and I'm tempted to cancel.