about New Years Eve plans?

10 replies

fadeandsparkle · 28/12/2013 22:39

We are a close group of 6 friends, always spend NYE together (with partners). But life changes and 2 of them have children now so will be spending it at home and 1 is working.

Friend A said she was spending it with her partners family. Leaving just one other friend (Friend B). Friend B has recently moved in with her sister who is pregnant. I asked Friend B if I could spend NYE at hers as I assumed she would be staying in with her sister. She looked uncomfortable and said that yes I could but if sister partner wasn't working then she would be going out with Friend A.

Basically Friend A hasn't invited me.

I have since had a text off a new friend who is having a house party and invited me and I'd like to go. But if I go am I being a shit person and dumping my other friend? I feel like it would create drama if I went.

My alternative before the new invite was if Friend B did go out with Friend A I would be pretty much spending the night alone.

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SashaOfSiberia · 28/12/2013 22:49

Just go to the party, this all seems so petty. Surely adults don't actually care about to is sort of thing.

What are they going to say you shouldn't have gone with an actual invite on the basis there may have been a potential one with them? Get a grip woman!

RandyRudolf · 28/12/2013 23:06

Go to the party with new friend.

AgentZigzag · 28/12/2013 23:09

Yeah, go with the new friend and don't give the others another thought.

cerealqueen · 28/12/2013 23:13

Go with the new friend, sounds like the old group is no more.

AgentZigzag · 28/12/2013 23:13

I don't think it's petty either, surely most adult have a bit of consideration for other peoples feelings?

cerealqueen · 28/12/2013 23:15

She isn't dumping anybody, friend A did not invite her and she is friend B's plan B!!

Financeprincess · 29/12/2013 02:30

Go to the party, have fun, and your friends' crappy behaviour will matter less to you.

MidniteScribbler · 29/12/2013 03:30

You've made no firm plans with Friend B so you are free to accept any invitation you wish. If Friend B can't commit and ends up missing out, that's her problem. I don't wait around to be anyone's back up plan.

WinterWinds · 29/12/2013 12:01

Sounds like both A & B have made plans that didn't really include you in the first place. You said yourself that B looked at bit uncomfortable when you asked to come round, therefore you are not letting anyone down.

Go to the party with your new friend and have a bloody good time!!!!

TheGinLushMinion · 29/12/2013 12:07

Obviously you should go to the party, friend A & friend B have clearly made plans that don't involve you.

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