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AIBU to think that ss were right either way

35 replies

Sadoldbag · 28/12/2013 18:47

www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/crime/mother-tried-to-sell-baby-with-gumtree-advert-asking-for-150000-9028198.html

I really think if she was serious it's right the children were removed and if it was a joke it's right the children were removed she clearly immature or sick if she thinks that's a funny joke.

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cantheyseeme · 28/12/2013 19:46

I hate that ss get blamed for so much too, if people didnt have the mindset to harm children in the first place....
At least she was stupid enough to put the add online and not do it herself.

Caitlin17 · 28/12/2013 19:49

There must be more to it than this.

Some one mentioned children being lost track of, whilst selling children is clearly illegal informal, long term fostering isn't and doesn't need to be approved by anyone (assuming the parents are not subject to any existing SS control when the placement is made) and children can and do disappear under the radar.

littlewhitechristmasbag · 28/12/2013 19:53

As a SW i would assume that there is more to this than just the stupid gumtree ad. Either they were known to SS and this was a last straw or there were other issues uncovered on visiting the home. You certainly wouldn't get a court order to remove a child on the basis of an idiotic advert.

hippo123 · 28/12/2013 19:54

What were ss suppose to do? Laugh? The children will be in emergency foster care within a living family with many contacts from mum whilst they investigate. It's not like they have taken the kids away never to be seen again you know.

MammaTJ · 28/12/2013 20:38

I am also 'known to SS' because some silly bitch decided to report me to them falsely. I got a letter from them saying 'we have no concerns about Mamma TJ and he partner and the care of their children. We have come to the conclusion that the complaint made to us by NAME was indeed malicious, as Mamma TJ claimed'.

Almost a claim to fame, having the complainant named in a report from SS. She has sent me a text threatening to report me to them, then rang them from the same number, so they assumed she was happy for me to know about it. Grin

Being known to SS is not always a bad thing.

There has to be more to this story!

DizzyZebra · 28/12/2013 21:11

Nigella - I lost my bank card on a Sunday. I had enough milk in (was due to shop that day) but asked him to pick me a couple of ready made cartons just in case (he was dropping dd off). Explained id lost my card,and being a Sunday i couldn't go in to the bank.

Apparently, me not having the ability to march employees into the closed bank warrented a call to social services because i was "failing to meet DDs basic needs".

The social worker nearly died and told him to stop it.

He sent her a snotty email telling her she wasn't doing her job properly.

I decided to ask my neighbour if i ever needed anything again.

NigellasDealer · 28/12/2013 21:17

he called SS rather than get a few pints of formula/millk in?
what a wankbadger, you were well rid.
and mammatj, i have had the malicious reporting thing too.

cantheyseeme · 28/12/2013 21:29

Maliciously reporting is a disgusting waste of time and resourcesAngry

SaucyJack · 28/12/2013 21:33

I'm wondering if the mum has some sort of substance abuse/alcohol problem, as you'd have to be pretty wasted to actually go through with the "joke".

DizzyZebra · 28/12/2013 21:38

Nigella - Oh he bought me the milk... Never said a word to my face. He wouldn't ever let DD go without but hes a cunt to me.

She lives with him (she goes to school where he does, better school there, only way shed get that here is private) and he tells people that social services took her off me.

i know he tells people this because he puts it in emails if he talks to me , presumably to cover himself with his wife etc incase she were to see any conversations between us.

He reported me for allsorts. I was once in a resteraunt with friends when the police turned up because he told them id put on facebook that i was going to kill myself.

I was mortified. Id put some stupid song lyrics. I played the song for the policeman and showed him the status, where a number of people had commented hours before saying "love that song".

he can do as he pleases though. I know in the one who's put my daughters needs before my own wants in agreeing to her going there, i know i don't have to lie or watch every word i say to my own family because in too cowardly to admit the truth.

He is a typical case of "my ex is a psycho". Doesn't want to admit he fucked up too so likes to pretend in this and that.

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