Best friend going back to primary school. Lots of ups and downs and partying and travelling together. I'm with DH 10 years, she's never had a relationship, a few flings and one night stands but never a relationship. It's not something that comes up in conversation and I don't ask, I know she's not gay though!
Before DC was born I was super fit, lived in the gym and was a high ranking member of a sports club. I was very athletic. Never owned a weighing scales in my life as I don't care about weight, it was fitness I wanted. Did that for about 8 years, loved it, was a toned size 10 and happy.
Friend was always skinny, never had any weight issues ever. Had no interest in fitness, that's cool.
After DC I was extremely ill with PND, hospitalised for a bit and was a long slow recovery. I'm 100% back to myself now, even more so since returning to work.
However I work shifts so don't have any downtime, apart from Saturdays, so the old fitness routine is gone.
I would like to get back into training at some point when time allows but I accept that's the way life is for now. I'm a size bigger and softer round the edges than pre-DC but not hugely bothered by it. DH likes the curvier bits!
Friend joined a gym about 8 months ago, I was thrilled that she was liking it. I'd tell her there's no feeling like a hot shower after a sweaty workout and was delighted she was enjoying getting fit.
Except 8 months later, it's ALL she's talking about. Even random texts about meeting up have a "was at gym at 7am!!" line in there.
For the first while I'd nod and agree yes it's addictive, it's great.
Until she started commenting about so-and-so who'd NEVER fit into her new training pants. About how all her gym gear is too small (she was a small 10 to start with!) and how SO many people are so unfit and overweight.
Every time we chat there's at least two third-party compliments: "Mr X said I look so fit!" or "Miss X keeps saying I'm so skinny!!"
Today she started up again and I found myself wishing she'd leave. It's so fucking tedious!
I was ultra aware of how boring kids can be to others so I've always been careful not to bang on about DC too much, I chat about work, family, nights out, current affairs etc.
AIBU to want her to shut the fuck up lecturing someone who trained harder and longer and never felt the need to constantly throw bouquets at myself while subtly putting someone else down?
AIBU to wonder if she's found a 'soft spot' with me and is pushing it on purpose?