about DP cancelling plans without telling me they exist?

[livinginawinterwonderland]

DP and I just had a massive row. It started over something petty and resulted in him telling me I control him and don't let him go out or do anything.

Turns out, we'd both been invited to a few nights out at a mutual friends house. He thought "Living won't want to go, so I'll make an excuse". I knew nothing about these plans until today. They were arranged, by text, through him. I wasn't told they were happening or that DP had cancelled on my behalf.

Bit of backstory: I do have anxiety. It can be bad, BUT that doesn't mean I want my social life decided for me. Yes, there'll be times I don't want to go or can't face a huge group of people, but surely I should be able to make that decision, not him?!

It sounds like the two of you are a little 'off track' in terms of communicating. I can understand why you are upset but can also understand why he made an assumption. Perhaps you need to have a talk and actually listen to each others feelings before resentment takes hold?

This sounds to me like a perfect case for counselling. If your problem is really only one of communication it can be extremely helpful.