AIBU to be annoyed that my mum

[LilQueenie]

is mad because she cant get here to see DD as the new year is cutting into "her week" for visiting. She is here every 2 weeks without fail for the entire day. back story we havent got a good relationship and she never bothered to visit before DD. Afterwards she was here constantly even trailing around the street incase she bumped into us for a glimpse at DD. I have pulled in the reins a lot from weekly visits and no overnight stays. She was allowing my DD to call her mum! I just get so annoyed then carry that anger around when I should be enjoying DD myself.

TBH I think what gets to me most is the phrase she uses "her week or her day" When does this stop. I plan to spend weekends with DD once she reaches schoolage. It wont become GP visiting time then because she is busy with school the rest of the time! Its always a hassle to as DP wont stick around during visits. Long story but after several attempts I accept his decision to stay away at that time. He has always said he doesnt want DD to stop seeing her GP.

There's clearly a long back story here, but just one thing - the point you made about not wanting to spend weekends visiting grandparents once your dd starts school. Well, what do you think the rest of us do? Most families DO make the effort to see grandparents at weekends, it doesn't have to be EVERY weekend but the idea that weekends are yours and your dd's time only is a bit preposterous. If you find your mother hard work then cut contact down generally - the weekends thing shouldn't come into it.

As a child I was always taken on days out at the weekend. I spent so much time with one set of grandparents becuase my dad worked and my mum prefered her boyfriend over me that I never really bonded with her. I tried for years to have DD and in that time my mum just said if it had been her she wouldnt have cared. My time with DD is special and I dont want that taken away.