My DH and I are only having our 3rd Christmas together - so we're really just getting used to each other. Last year I was still a very honeymoon state but I now look back and realise this is a pattern.
My DH's pile of presents, with the exception of a jumper I bought him, is still under the tree, untouched. There's two games, one to do with a sport he does every week, chocolates, smellies, a book, and a few other bits - mostly from me but from his adult children and some other family members too.
I've got crafty or cookery things, and socks and books and smellies - and the majority are opened and worn, used, planned to use, etc.
I've felt quite upset - because I feel that if he liked what I've bought and chosen, he'd have wanted to get them out. We've had time to play games, and to indulge in baths or chocolates.
So we talked about it and he says he loves his presents, they are just right and he doesn't wish he had other things, but he's "less impulsive than me" and "doesn't see the need to rush into everything straight away". But this isn't straight away, this is 3 days after Christmas.
I think my problem is my attitude to it - my feeling of upset and almost a bit of rejection because I see it as him not liking what I've bought and finding it boring. I struggle to see his different ways of doing things and not feel judged by it, so for example I'm working on eg. his last minute attitude to presents and cards doesn't mean he doesn't care, just because I feel like having things in good time shows you think of and value the person. So maybe IABU because my attitude is too fixed and inflexible.
First world problem, sure, but AIBU to find his behaviour unusual, uninterested, and ungrateful?