To feel sad for DD that the ILs show no interest?

[surgicalwidow]

We spent Christmas at home where DH and I are both originally from, splitting Christmas Day and Boxing Day with our two families. DH went home on Boxing Day evening as he is working; DD and I are staying on until tomorrow evening. I have had a lovely time catching up with my DSIS, friends etc, but none of my three SILs have made an effort to see either me or DD, who is 11 mo. Who they see rarely, maybe every few months, and is one of their goddaughters. I went to pains to suggest coffee, lunches etc but haven't heard anything back. I bumped into one of them, and she told me all about the fun things they and their mum have been doing with the other nieces and nephews (one of whom is just a year older than DD so they could do similar activities / play date type things) . I don't expect to be treated as another daughter, I'm not and I have been spending time with my own DSIS and DM, but am a bit sad that they have shown no interest in seeing either me or DD. Obviously am missing DH which doesn't help!

Aw that's a bit sad. Maybe next year when she's older?

Aunts as with grandparents can provide love and support for a child and so you are right to be sad. RedLondonBus is right to hope for next year when she will be nearly two.

How long were you home for? Were they all home visiting too? It could just be time constraint if they have all come over to visit too.

Call and arrange some get togethers in the new year.

I have this but with GPiL they just don't seem interested in my dc yet will spend days with their other gc at the other end of the country and planning all kinds of wonderful events with them. It makes me sad and angry that my dc don't appear as worthy of their time and effort.

I wouldn't set my hopes too high actually if you have an interest in a child you have it whatever their age. Have low expectations then you wont get upset.

It is sad but some people just aren't interested in socialising outside their own little friend circle. It doesn't make it any less horrible for you, but a bit more understandable.

Don't worry about it OP, have you got anyone else you could invite for coffee who will actually appreciate your efforts?