Ok - I am completely ready to be told that I abu.
My birthday is on the 22nd of December. I have spent my whole life with my birthday being overshadowed by Christmas, but my parents tried really hard to make them different when I was younger. I am now 45 - it doesn't actually matter any more. However, this year I got my christmas present for my birthday. And I'm surprisingly upset by it.
To set the scene - I had a long discussion with mum in November about Christmas and birthday. I was going to buy a steam cleaner for myself, and we talked about the multi function sort, or 2 separate ones. We agreed that I would buy a floor one, and she'd buy me a hand held one for my birthday.
My birthday comes, and I go to my parents for lunch. I get a really lovely set of No. 7 bath and skin stuff. It's lovely, but not a steam cleaner. But that's fine - plans change, and maybe it wasn't on sale any more.
I also go and stay with them over Christmas. For various reasons (all reasonable and practical), Mum and Dad didn't give out presents until Boxing day. My sister, daughters and nieces and I get a bag each. Most of them are things that would have been in stockings, had Mum had time to organise them. We all get a bunch of small things - face wipes, nail varnish remover pads, nail varnish, lip gloss and so on. Every one else gets a big box. Kids get a Soap and Glory gift box, my sister gets a lovely set of No. 7 bath and skin stuff. I don't.
So it's really clear that they've given me my Christmas present to me for my birthday.
My reasonable self is telling me that it doesn't matter. I'm a grown up, and it doesn't matter .
My inner adolescent is upset.
AIBU?