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Or am I being sensible?

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TinselandTrees · 27/12/2013 22:32

This may be a brave step putting this in here, but here we go...

I have 2DC and 2DSDC. The DSC's have arrived today for their usual weekend with us. My only problem is that I have ben ill since Christmas Day evening with D&V bug. I stopped vomiting yesterday, but have been seriously unwell. (unable to look after my own DC's).

I knew my DH was getting ill earlier and was dismayed that he chose to ignore it. I think it would have been sensible to at least discuss delaying their visit. He had to get me out of bed to help him. That is ok, we are both parents and have to look after our kids. However, he now has his head in a bucket and being sick. He is very unwell.

About an hour ago I asked him to text DSC's mum and say that they needed to be collected tomorrow morning. I think she needs to know. After a little text conversation he has said, could she collect tomorrow unless he sends a message that all is ok. He has said to me that he might feel better in the morning. Hmm

Now DC2 is already ill (not Sick) and very clingy. I will need to be up tomorrow to look after all 4 now, which is going to be hard. But I really think this is unfair on DSC. DH and I have a very nasty bug and DC2 is already harbouring something. Other family members have already caught my bug, so I don't think being around us is fair. I understand their mum needs a break and will have made plans. But AIBU to think they need to go home tomorrow?

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BlackDaisies · 27/12/2013 22:37

Oh dear. Poor you. In terms if them catching it, it's probably too late. But I think their mum probably ought to know what's going on. I'd probably be pissed off if I were her, so it would probably be easier if you say it's just come on, rather than a bug you've had for a little while.

Bashingabrickwall · 27/12/2013 22:38

I would say it would be better if they went home, rather than catch the bug you all have surely? YANBU

BlackDaisies · 27/12/2013 22:38

I mean I'd be pissed off to think you agreed to habeas them in the first place. And yes, you should suggest they go home in the morning.

MammaTJ · 27/12/2013 22:39

I think she should have been notified in advance and given the option to keep her DC away.

Too late now though.

BlackDaisies · 27/12/2013 22:39

have not habeas, bloomin' phone.

phantomnamechanger · 27/12/2013 22:40

they should not have come in the first place! the kids may be coming down with it alredy so its doubly unfair - she doesn't get a break AND she has them sick to care for.

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TinselandTrees · 27/12/2013 22:45

I wish that were the case. Not once in 5 years has their visit been cancelled due to us being ill. It has been the other way tooSad . I suppose I'm disappointed on both sides. I have had some bad illnesses in my time but never been like I was on Christmas Day. I don't want any of our kids to be ill, but for DC1's it's far to late and we have to hope it's skipped. DC2 was ill first, but thankfully much much milder poor thing. I just see two lovely DC's and feel frustrated that as a step mum I couldn't make the call.Sad

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TinselandTrees · 27/12/2013 22:51

ok so I already feel like I wasn't in the wrong. This isn't the first time I have felt like I'm interfering. I just don't get it really. tbh I think she did know. DSC1 has already said I kept them awake Christmas day night being sick. They went home first thing boxing day. I totally lost track and though we had 2more days for me to get better before we had them. I was prettyAngry when DH informed me they were coming today. This is only from the point of view that I don't want them ill. We are blessed with a close relationship.

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TinselandTrees · 28/12/2013 08:57

Well after a night on the sofa bed, to give my poorly DH some space. He has come down almost ok. The DSC's are staying with us now. I'm down to feeling just a tiny bit achey and tired, rather than ill. But im feeling a bit off with DH. It yurns out he probably overdid the cheese and had a hang over on topAngry

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DejaVuAllOverAgain · 28/12/2013 09:05

OP you sound lovely. It would have been better if your DH had postponed the visit for a few days to try to avoid giving the bug to the DSC. Seeing as your DH is now more or less recovered from his hangover illness I think you should go back to bed for a bit while he takes care of his DC.

StillNoFuckingEyeDeer · 28/12/2013 09:11

If your DSCs get the bug whilst they're with you, would it be practical for them to stay on and your DH care for them to avoid infecting their mother?

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TinselandTrees · 28/12/2013 11:55

I totally agree. If they did get sick, I think they should stay here as they have siblings at home too. But I doubt it would happen. I will express that wish and hope the illness doesn't happen. Great news is, DC2 is back on form and fridge raiding againGrin.

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