to be fed up of hearing about this wedding?

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On of my friends got engaged this year around July time and since then every time I see her the wedding is all she can talk about.

I am happy and I am excited for her but the wedding isn't until summer 2015 and I can't stand another year and a half of every conversation revolving around the wedding.

I have showed enthusiasm otherwise I'm sure she would have stopped talking about it.

Aibu and a bad friend?

Yanbu. Cand you tell her? Nicely?

I feel your pain. A close friend spoke of nothing but her wedding for nearly three years and it nearly finished me off! Similarly to you, I was delighted for my friend but it was too much. She rarely asked about any aspect of my life and I was really going through the mill at the time.

I didn't say anything but I did subtlely change the subject and tried to ask about her other interests, to try and balance things. I think she would have been really hurt had I asked her to stop outright so I didn't do that, but it could be a possibility? In a nice way perhaps?

It made me determined not to do the same. I never mentioned our plans to anyone except fiancé and my mum!

Change the subject every time she brings it up, if she continues boring you to death you'll just have to find more interesting friends.

Change the subject to divorce every time she mentions the wedding. She'll soon stop.

Changing the subject every time she speaks of it seems a little bit harsh, there must be some balance. Talk positively, acknowledge how important and all consuming it is for her. That whilst it's important to you too it would be great if you could talk about everything happening in both your lives. Then she gets to think about her conversation topics (and hopefully broadens them) without feeling she isn't allowed to talk about the biggest thing on her mind.

I'd agree with bedhaven, here. Everyone does this at some point in their lives, whether it's a wedding, partner, new job, animal, or something negative. I seriously doubt there's a single person that hasn't pissed off their friends by fixating on something-whatever the topic at some point in time. You may not even realise you're doing it. I can't think of one of mine that hasn't over the decades.

Chances are you have or you will end up doing the same to your friend at some point so I'd be diplomatic if you do steer the conversation away or you might not get the same thing back. My friend was shocked when I told her to 'put up and shut up about her crappy job, either look for another or suck it up'. The exact same words she'd used on me a decade earlier. Same issues, same situation, same answer. She didn't like it and liked it even less when I reminded her that they were her words to me and applied to her as well.

YANBU I have a friend who has been all consumed by her wedding since about 2008. She gets married....2014! It's like Will you just shut the fuck up!

YA so NBU! I dont mind a little wedding talk but have known a few who talk about nothing else despite the weddinh date being a few years away. It gets so boring and makes you avoid spending time with them.

There should be a new law whereby you get engaged and married within six months, at least then the talk is limited .... Well until the new bride gets pregnant and thinks she is the first women in the world to do so.

YANBU weddings are one of the most utterly boring and tedious things to discuss, I don't get what there is to say to people who go on and on about it. Very self-centred.

Avoid her until September 2015?

I think you might just have to tell her that she's being boring and give her examples of other discussions that you had 'pre-proposal'. I think some people just don't realise that they're being tedious and self-obssessed.

Make a joke out of it, every time she mentions it. Say something like' omg are you getting married, I never knew'. Every time. She'll soon get the message