to be grateful that for once AIBU advice wasn't totally spot on

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DMIL doesn't like cooking for Christmas, DFIL wanted to see us. I suggested months ago that we came with food and I cooked at theirs... they said great! and we'll buy the turkey. I asked an AIBU about this and was told unequivocally that this was a terrible, terrible idea.

Christmas Day was lovely - in-law family all relaxing in the front room, I happily cooking in the kitchen - they got catch up time, I got to spend some nice time with them but have a task so not making too much idle conversation. We all had a lovely meal, I got to eat the turkey and trimmings that DMIL wouldn't want to have cooked, nice appreciation all around, lovely Boxing Day walk and home after 48 hours. Not to say it all went according to plan of course... who copes with one roasting pan and no whisk?!

Just to say, sometimes when you ask an AIBU (but do it anyway - dons tin hat) it can still all end up alright in the end...

You will now have a few questioning whether they were right to LTB after all

What a lovely, relaxed way to spend Christmas as that was your choice. I understand that AIBU has it's place, but, if the circumstances allow you to have the conversation with the person/s concerned, then, what's the issue.

I think AIBU sometimes serves a purpose in that you read the responses, and the ones that infuriate you or get your back up help you realise what your true feelings are about the subject

Glad you had a nice Christmas!

I agre with Joyce, it is like tossing a coin, while it is in the air, you realise that you REALLY want it to land on tails!

Was your AIBU the one where you were bringing all the trimmings to theirs because the didn't do that for Xmas dinner and your MiL was getting up your nose because she kept being negative to you about that?

Glad it worked out! I always cook Xmas lunch at my in laws... Because I want a British meal with all the trimmings whilst they celebrate Polish Xmas instead. This way we all get food we love over two days, no fighting in the kitchen, we buy our own bits for the meals we make so no missing ingredients etc. works great for us :)

AIBU isn't an oracle you know....you don't have to live your life by it.