to think that adult kids should buy their own presents

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Really grated this year. Nieces are both in their 30's have their own homes,partners and jobs and my family always buys them individual presents. In return we get one present from dsil saying happy xmas from db, dsil dn1 and her partner and Dn2 and her partner. Now I know that dsil has bought this present and nieces had no input. Why pretend? Its nothing to do with the present its the whole trying to cover up that nieces cba buying anyone other than their own mum and sister a present

By not reciprocating, they are trying to send you the message that they don't want you to buy them anythinga they have no intention of buying anything for you. So just stop. Problem solved.

Exactly, why are you buying presents for the nieces? Their lives have moved on, they will have loved ones/ friends of their own to buy for - why should they be giving you presents?

My uncle still signs a card fom my 28yo cousin to my granny and granda.

I think its a disgrace that she wont buy her own grandparents a present.

Also I went to a family wedding of my OHs and talked to him about what present to buy and he said "oh my dads sorting that" yes he still lives a home but I had a go at him. At 26yo hes bloody old enough to buy his own cousin a wedding present.

Soontobeburnswhy should she buy her grandparents presents? My grown up son doesn’t give or receive presents from either of his grandmothers.