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to be very irritated at the lack of turkey...

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UpsideRaspberryAround · 26/12/2013 15:58

Did the usual selection of nice bread and pickles to go with the leftover turkey, it was massive and enough for everyone to have many times...

However it is all elsewhere. Because I have three under four I offered to do the Xmas meal for the whole extended family rather than inflict an invasion force on my parents/ childless siblings. My mum kindly offered to contribute by buying the turkey, eh and I Cooked it with every trimming and did drinks so probably a pretty even split of costs, maybe us a bit more as hosts. We would have bought it all but of course accepted the lovely gesture.

After the meal dh stripped a huge platter full of leftover turkey. It was a great meal, all relaxed and on the way out mum said she was going to the fridge to get bits for home. I actually said "don't forget turkey!" As there was plenty for everyone to take a plate load home.

Mum took it ALL.

I rung to check if this was a mistake(we live very close so easy to solve) as we hadn't separated it out yet but she told me she bought it so it was their leftovers! It's so bloody tight and left a sour note, I feel like it was planned, actually getting the bird rather than just contributing to the overall cost, she knows how much everyone likes the turkey meals in the next few days. It'll probably be part wasted too there is so much. I now have no meat to eat with things and a disagreement to finish Xmas on.

Petty, others have bigger issues I know, but surely I'm not being unreasonable expecting to share??? I'm probably a bit sounds up as she has so much previous form for petty things, I ignored so many bloody comments in the day I was already wound up before the turkey went.... (Eg dd is hemiplegic, constant commenting on her development an other joys)

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Trills · 26/12/2013 16:00

YANBU to think that when someone contributes towards a meal, they shouldn't expect to take home all of the leftovers.

If she had brought wine, would she have taken home any half-empty bottles?

FeckOffCupofMulledWine · 26/12/2013 16:02

YANBU that would have annoyed me too especially as you think they won't even eat it all, what a waste.

pumpkinsweetie · 26/12/2013 16:02

Very tight if you ask me! Shock

UpsideRaspberryAround · 26/12/2013 16:04

She brought sprouts too as I forgot, I'm quite tempted to fish them out for her

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Upcycled · 26/12/2013 16:10

YANBU
PIL bring the drinks and we buy all the food.
They always bring EVERY bottle back home with ANY left over in it.
This year they left two opened bottles of wine behind, but probably because they were cheap ones.

ENormaSnob · 26/12/2013 16:17

Yanbu

TapirsCaperWithReindeers · 26/12/2013 16:19

YANBU and I would definitely send her the sprouts!

TheCrumpetQueen · 26/12/2013 16:19

She is mean.

Snowdown · 26/12/2013 16:28

Mil visits and takes cake with her and then she leaves with whatever we haven't eaten - I really like her but that's just not on.

Doyouthinktheysaurus · 26/12/2013 16:32

Yanbu, that's very mean!

Definitely send her the sprouts!

Having said that, I did return with half a ham I had cooked and taken to my mum's. Only because she told me too though! I was pretty pissed off she didn't want it tbh, the ham was bloody gorgeous.

soverylucky · 26/12/2013 17:00

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TooTryHard · 26/12/2013 17:07

Very mean!

My uncle packed up the leftover cake he contributed to my father's funeral. It's given us something to bitch about for years :).

hootloop · 26/12/2013 17:11

That is mean, if you were close to me you could have some of mine as we have our left overs and FIL has just been round with theirs as they only like it freshly cooked.

JonSnowKnowsNothing · 26/12/2013 17:15

That's awful and very mean of your mum.
On a practical note, could you grab a reduced turkey crown tomorrow and use that? They're heavily reduced at this time of year.

Birdsgottafly · 26/12/2013 17:20

She brought sprouts too as I forgot, I'm quite tempted to fish them out for her"

Put a picture up of her and draw scores in it, have a family day of darts, with IOU prizes on it, using sprouts.

I am Vegan, was told not to bring my own food/wine, as I would be catered for. I had boiled spuds, peas, carrots and water.

I am treating myself tomorrow, when the shops open and never relying on anyone else again.

She was out of order, guilt trip her via your children (Evil Grin).

CaptainTripps · 26/12/2013 17:21

I was just going to mention about getting a chap turkey.

And yes, that was really out of order of her!

CaptainTripps · 26/12/2013 17:21

cheap I meant cheap

Lweji · 26/12/2013 17:25

Yes, take the sprouts. And have a turkey sandwich while you are there.

KingRollo · 26/12/2013 17:36

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Lweji · 26/12/2013 17:46

It was not MIL, but mum. Grin

Poor MILs. Wink

JonSnowKnowsNothing · 26/12/2013 18:41

Good idea from KingRollo! I've nabbed some of my mum's Christmas ham and it was AMAZING with coleslaw and crusty bread, Stilton, etc today.

Upcycled · 26/12/2013 18:48

just rejoice in the fact you are a much better person OP.
And (I know it is difficult) but charge MONEY next year.
Or make her doggy bag instead of letting her help herself.

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