to give my mother vouchers in future?

[FrauMoose]

I have stopped giving her books. Apparently they take up too much room and the last one I gave her, she asked if she could give to a friend.

Most objects take up too much room, she says.

From time to time I bought her scarves, but she has - apparently - too many of them.

I bought her a Steiff bear this Christmas, but - I got told yestereday - there are now more than enough bears.

A basic kindle perhaps, then an amazon voucher for every subsequent gift?

do you ask her what she wants exactly?
infuriating and she sounds rude

My brothers - who both earn a bit more than I do, and who don't have children of their own - tend to give her fancy gadgets. (a Kindle, a webcam, an iPod(?)) which are valued. One of my brother often gets her large coffee table-type books, which are valued, and which there seems to be plenty of room for.

I'd been tending to go for slightly more modest, but - I had thought - rather more personal/individual gifts - but to not much avail. If I have got something for an auction or antiques fair, there's been an implication that this is worth less than something purchased from a 'proper shop'.

I think vouchers will mean at any rate she can choose what she wants. She doesn't like me as much as she likes her sons, so I don't think I am going to try too hard on future occasions.

thats sad op

Oh I feel your pain, months of "I don't want anything" to be disappointed at ANY present.

May I warn you... you will never get a voucher for the right place so don't get false hope. Get amazon, they'll be no books she likes or she'll hate online shopping, get m&s and she'll tell you they've gone downhill...

One can never have too many bears.

Exactly, bears are a necessity, just like in the song.

I feel your pain. Vouchers. She will still complain though.