To smash up his Ps4

[Boyssmell]

First time poster.
Been with dp for two years, second Christmas we have spent together. This year we did the same as last year, he stays round mine Christmas Eve, goes to his parents Christmas morning and comes back to mine at 4pm for the rest of the day. This year his parents bought him a Ps4, he asked me if he can bring it over to play at mine, I say no as I know what he can be like when it comes to games and my family has planned a night of spending time together, it being Christmas and all that. He arrives at mine, plays a game with my family for about 20 minutes, after dm starts laying out food on the table, and we're waiting for db and sil to arrive, haven't seen them in ages and thought dp was as excited to see them as I was and to present swap ect. So straight after game dp goes into my bedroom and sets up ps4 on my Tv, didn't ask me, clearly ignored me telling him no to bringing it. I say what are you doing? He said he's only going to be on it 10 mins as has not had a chance to play it. In the spirit of Christmas I say ok. 30 minutes later db and sil arrives, dp still playing game, he knows they're here, doesn't bother to come out and say hello. Misses presents swapping. 30 more minutes go by. I have asked him to come out twice. Everyone asking me why he's not coming out ect, really embarrassing. 20 more mins, we've all eaten, dm wants to put food away so she knocks on door and asks if he's coming out to eat, he doesn't open door just rudely shouts out one sec. 15 more minutes, he comes out. Didn't want to cause a scene so hid my anger and had nice night. Now everyone has gone to bed he can't see why I'm mad at him. We were meant to go to his parents for Boxing day and i've said to him I don't want to go. If he's being anti social with my family why should I make an effort with his? Bearing in mind he wanted to come round to mine at 4pm, he could have stayed at his and played Ps4, it would have been a lot less embarrassing to explain to my family where he is. Would have prefered he's at home to, oh he's in the bedroom and wont cone out.
Needed to vent. Thank you.

[saintmerryweather]

Its easy to get sucked into a game and spend hours on it but its rude and disrespectful to ignore family members and you. Id have cleared the food away and id be mentioning it to his family in an effort to get him to see how unreasonable he was

[Chuckthefucklebrothers]

Throw the fucking time sucking piece of crap ps4 out of the window - and your rude man-child out after it!

[livinginawinterwonderland]

Oh, this would make me so angry. Tell it to him straight that his behaviour is rude and just not on. I got DP a new PS3 game for Christmas but he still asked to go on it, and that was while we were cooking Christmas dinner so we couldn't really sit down and watch anything together because one of us would have to keep getting up.

[manticlimactic]

My DD got a new game for her PS3. We spent the day ay my mums and came home at about 6 oclock. She played the game, after asking, for about an hour (10 minutes of that was loading the game) and then she came off as we had guests.

If a 17yo can do it, a grown man can. Rude, rude, rude! Sitting in your bedroom for hours playing on something you had asked him not to bring. Being rude to your DM.

I wouldn't smash the PS4 up. He'll need something to occupy his time when you dump him

[JoanRanger]

He sounds dull as hell.

[LuciusMalfoyisSmokingHot]

Dont smash it woman, send it to me and send him back to mummy.

I love gaming, but i know where to draw the line with it.

[Boyssmell]

Will go to his parents today and will tell on him to his mum :)
He acts about 14 when it comes to games, going to lay down some serious ground rules. Thank you all for replying!

[nennypops]

You should have gone in and unplugged the playstation. Or turned off the power at the mains for a couple of minutes.

[AWomansPlace]

Rude, doesn't show much respect for you and your family. I would be fuming.

[Iwannalaylikethisforever]

Turn off the electric circuit! Omg ps4 is broken!!!

[CaptainTripps]

Have I misunderstood the term 'partner' all these years? Generally are these men being bigged up to something they haven't committed to?

Boyfriend innit?

And yes he was out of order.

[DejaVuAllOverAgain]

I wouldn't be going to his family with him today because I wouldn't be with such a rude, immature, disrespectful arse. He needs to grow up.

[NuggetofPurestGreen]

Yes you have Captain. My partner is not being 'bigged up' to anything he hasn't committed to. I feel a bit silly to refer to my boyfriend at my age and after so long together.

[glammanana]

How would this chap manage all day at work without his PS4 ? at 25 I would have serious concerns and his manners are more than questionable ? more fool his parents for buying a PS4 for a 25yr old.

[DizzyZebra]

YANBU. My OH would never, ever ignore company for a game, christmas or not.

My friends came up a few weeks ago for the weekend and he only went on one game and that was because my friends partner asked him about it so they were both playing it and discussing it.

Its rude. He had the opportunity to stay at his parents if he wanted to play it that badly.

[pregnantpause]

Yanbu- I've often been grateful that dp hates gaming, some people seem to be obsessed and can be very rude and anti social with it.

I was annoyed that my 8yo nephew spent two hours on Christmas day playing skylanders, don't know how I would react if it were an adult being so ignorant.

Oh, I don't think partner is wrong either, he's not just a friend is he? Bigged up, ffs, the op isn't sixteen trying to prove she's in a real relationship, she's an adult, in a relationship, with her partner.

[comingintomyown]

Charming behaviour.

Actually if he's prepared to be like that when he's on display as it were then what on earth is he like normally ?

Bid him farewell

[glasgowsteven]

One more chance...

the PS4 or me.

Keep that at your house, it does not come with you...it is not a newborn

[1974rach]

Would kick him to the kerb whilst shouting "NEXT"

He sounds incredibly childish and rude.

[ChippingInLovesChristmasLights]

Why are you bothering to 'set down rules'. You are young, you are childless and you don't live with him - get out now while you still have all those advantages. He is behaving like a rude, self centered idiot - why waste your time on him? Can you even imagine what it would be like if you had a toddler and a baby to look after and he just sat on his arse playing games... no? Well, have a read of some threads on here that will tell you exactly what it's like :(

He's not 'the love of your life' he's a twat, you just need to open your eyes to it.

[sykadelic15]

So, according to your OP in an hour and 35 mins people arrive, swap presents and eat. During that time you've asked him about 3-4 times to come out. He KNEW how the day was supposed to go, and knew it wasn't like you would be there ALL night.

You asked him not to bring the game, he did anyway. Not playing it for a few hours until he went home wouldn't have killed him.

He has no respect for you or your family. Whether you consider that a deal-breaker is up to you.

[HECTheHeraldAngelsSing]

He was very rude. Id have flicked the trip switch for the upstairs sockets!