Dp 'forgot' to get me a 'To Mummy . . ' christmas card from DS

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I put it on my list of presents and reminded him about 4 times throughout the month.

Got him a really lovely daddy one that he opened this morning, I'd put some nice words in about being a great daddy too.

He casually said to me 'oh I forgot your card, sorry'

I'm sooo upset, I'm now in a mood with him, he doesn't see the fuss. He also forgot to get me a card from DS for my birthday, and I had got him a lovely daddy one.

AIBU? Or is he?

I can't believe that you're upset that you didn't get a pretend Christmas card! How completely pointless to want your DP to get a card purportedly from your DS. It's just unbelievable and I'm glad you've decided to get a grip. I hope you have apologised to your DP for getting upset over such a ridiculous thing.

It's not the card, it's the lack of thought! Especially after she told him 4 times..

Have a good Xmas OP and don't let it ruin it, but I get why you are upset about it and I don't even have kids.. Xx

YABU! So what if you told him 4 times? Maybe he thinks they are stupid a waste of money or a bit pointless? Honestly!

Well done, OP, on getting a grip. I can see how it might be a nice surprise to get a pretend card from a DC if someone thought of it off their own bat, but not so good if they had to be told.

Enjoy the day with your husband and baby.

I agree it was thoughless.

I can see why you are upset. It's the principle of it I think. I figure its not really about the card. It seems to be the lack of thought or care from your DH. However don't cut off your nose to spite your face. The misery will only serve to ruin your day, so it's not worth it.

Perhaps later after today, you may want to address the main issues behind his thoughtlessness. In the meantime, Merry Christmas, and have a lovely day.

I'm glad I read the thread to the end. Fair play OP for realising YBU.

I ordered myself a CD, wrapped it and handed it to DD to give to me. We're both happy with that.

Have a lovely Christmas everyone's

Oh gawd. Another thread about Christmas card disappointment. How precious!

If someone told me 4 times what to get them I would be pretty tempted to deliberatly not tbh.

Either way it's a card, a card the child can't even write themselves. Hardly the end of the world!

we dont give christmas cards to each other so it wouldnt bother me

It was the thought behind it, not the actual card itself really. I traipsed around 4 shops trying to find a decent one for him, because I knew it would have made him feel special. I was just annoyed that he didn't do the same for me. I won't bother next year.

But. It's a bloody card right? I'm over it now, worser things could have happened. After I'd got over my strop and read MN replies I feel much better and we've had a nice morning.

Have a good day all!

There are three of us - OH, me and DD. None of us has sent cards to each other. No point really, is there?

DH forgot bless him he was mortified. Don't spoil Christmas over this... It's a card. It's a busy time if year doesn't mean anything

I am saying YABU because I was the one who forgot to get DH a card from DS (15 months) and he got on from DS to me that DS had scribbled inside.

Yabu. You must have little to worry about.

I don't think it is about the card the OP is upset but her husband lack of 'care"
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I can see why you're upset. For the first few years that I had children, I had the expectation that DH would help the children make/buy me a mother's day card, as they were too young to do this by themselves. It would have meant a lot to me, but I don't think he got that.

Anyway, I have learned to lower my expectations and now have a much happier time on mother's day! The same applies to most festivities/occasions.

In future just get it yourself and put it in front of DH/the baby to sign it. If something matters that much, that's what I do. And buy yourself a grip while you are at it. But don't let this spoil your day. Have a happy one.

The card you got for him ? Ask him if it really did make him feel special. You might be surprised by the reply.

And then based on that reply, decide in future if you are a "give to receive" kind of person or not

glad you've gotten a grip but do understand your being upset OP. sounds like you put a lot more thought into making him feel appreciated as a father than you he does in the other direction. i get it.

also a bit of a 'here we go then' precedent for the future whereby it'll all fall to you re: all the little touches, doing things from the child, thinking of the bits that make things special etc.

there was no one to take ds to get me something this year so i bought something and wrapped it from santa with a note that said he knew ds really wanted me to have something so his elves had helped. ds was delighted.

i wonder if people maybe aren't getting that the card is someone's opportunity to say you're doing a good job as a mother and it's appreciated by your partner even if your child is too young to say it. presumably that's why the OP bought such a card for her DH.

You want your DH to write a card on the behalf of your small child? He forgot and now your having a sulk about it?

Get a fucking grip.

Get a hold of that grip yourself LongTimeLurking, the OP already said she was over it.

Try not to let it spoil your christmas OP, tbh the card wouldn't be from your toddler, as your toddler cannot purchase or write the card.

Christmas Cards are so 2002.

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