To think this is out of order?

[banana87]

My friend text me today saying her mum had text her telling her she "owes" £105 for Christmas dinner.

Friend never agreed to help pay. There are 7 people in total attending, including partners. A tad OTT and out of order on the mums part??? She's not broke and there are no major money problems.

You need to give more background info (i.e. why is her mum demanding/expecting).

Why is it your problem?

The history is that mum bullies my friend on a regular basis. She's told her that because she knows she can get away with it. Did I say it was my problem?

Is everybody else contributing that much? If so, what on earth has she bought? Gold plated turkey?

I'd be tempted not to go in your friends shoes. Could she possibly come to yours for dinner instead? Or stay at home if she has a significant other?

She should decline the "invitation" and stay at home.

She should decline the "invitation" and stay at home.

This

Is it a gold plated Christmas dinner? No way would I pay that - I'm all for contributing fairly but not being taken advantage of.

If I was your friend I'd stay home!

The thing that drives me mad is that she won't. She doesn't know how to say "no". I've tried helping her before but it goes in one ear and out the other.

Glad it's not just me who thinks it's crazy!!

£105 for her share of Christmas dinner? For that, I'd expect a large diamond in the Christmas pudding and naked dancing waiters.

YANBU banana.

Euphemia, you read my mind. I am still trying to decide whether I'd want him to dress as Thorin Oakenshield or not .

He must. For ever. From now on, thats the only way he can dress...

Op - yanbu.

Alpaca, I've come over all faint .

There is another similar thread where a mnetter has been invited to Xmas dinner by her sister and billed £16 per head for it. What's wrong with people, have they lost the skill of hosting? It's one thing asking guestsvto contribute to a course but really off & grabby to invite them to dinner & then to charge them for it.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/1947221-Dsis-charging-for-Christmas-dinner

Ehh? £105? Your friend needs to start standing up for herself now

£105? Is she having a laugh?

I would not go.