To suggest we don't go to PIL's tomorrow as DD is poorly

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DD woke me up last night to say she felt sick. She was then sick in the loo and went back to bed. Then woke up at 6am to do diahorrea then again at 9am then at 3pm this afternoon. She actually seems quite well but has obviously picked up some kind of bug. She's eaten some toast, ham sandwich & apple. Just about to make her some scrambled eggs.
We were supposed to go to the PIL's this am to stay for a few days. It's a 5 hrs drive. Needless to say I think we should wait a day or two until DD is better however my DH wants to go tmw! His grandad, nieces and nephews will be there etc. He doesn't get to see them very often however they could all quite easily catch the bug!

I think you should stay at home.

Hmmm difficult one. I can understand him wanting to go but I don't think I'd want to do a 5 hour drive with a child who is being sick etc....won't be very nice for her if she's still not feeling well. Maybe see how she is in the morning? She might feel totally fine. I can understand your reservations though. Is it possible it's not a bug and just something she's eaten?

I think you need to warn them asap you might not be coming, but if it's something she's eaten it might be out of her system by tonight? Could you go on Boxing day instead if she's better?

I wouldn't do a 5 hour drive on Christmas Day whether the child was better or not.

He really wants you all to spend 5 hours on Christmas Day sitting in a car? Really?

Will the relatives only be there on Christmas Day? If they will still be there on Boxing Day then it would be better to wait another 24h.

Otherwise, I would see how she is tomorrow morning and then decide. Perhaps Christmas dinner could be moved to the evening instead lunch?

Well I wouldn't as you risk giving it to his entire family which could be serious for his grandad. Sure fire way to ruin their Christmas giving them all a D&V bug, I wouldn't be very happy at all if someone turned up who was sick.

Ask him if he'd fancy a 5 hr drive when he had D & V..? Bet he wouldn't - in which case, why does he expect his DD to do that..?
Also, you won't be popular if you turn up at ILs and pass it on to everyone else...!

If she doesn't have any D&V tomorrow, then maybe you could drive up in the evening or first thing Boxing Day? I think she needs to be at least clear for 24 hours to be honest, especially if you will be seeing elderly relatives/babies.

Ordinarily, I would say "See how she goes tonight blah blah". But a 5 hour drive, with an upset tummy? Your poor dd. Also, how old is your dh's grandfather? I would be advising DH to make the call to tell the family what's going on. Difficult, but you can't pass on d and v to elderly relatives.

Yanbu op. My dh insisted we go to the inlaws for dinner on sunday even though he and dd2 had been up all night puking. He couldn't let his mum down apparently even though we go every week!! I hate being married to a fucking man-child!

I would stay at home.

5 hrs in a car is not fun with sick DC! Plus passing on germs.

From their point of view I wouldn't want someone turning up with D&V as you could make the entire family ill! Get him to look at it from that perspective.

I wouldn't want to do a five hour drive with a poorly child, that's not fair. Mind you I wouldn't want to do a five hour drive on Christmas Day full stop.

Please don't go OP. We had four Christmases in a row ruined by d and v when other people still travelled to see us with it... Just a nightmare. I know it's sad but I really wouldn't thank you if you turned up for Christmas with a stomach bug.

Ask him how he would feel if his grandad ends up in hospital dehydrated if you go and he gets it (yes worse case scenario but not all that unlikely either).

She's almost certainly got one of the winter vomiting viruses which you will also now have and will give it to all the relatives as they're extremely contagious until 48 hours after all symptoms have settled.

I would let the relatives decide if they want to risk of the bug as well.

I wouldn't risk D&V on the rest of the family. I definitely would wait 48 hours after it's cleared.

I would be furious if a relative showed up with a kid who had been vomiting 24 hours earlier.

Don't make the relatives decide, they'll be put in an awkward position. Stay home and let you poor DD recover - she will probably want to sleep and rest lots.

I just wouldn't spend 5 hours in a car on Xmas Day anyway personally, how tedious.

Your DH needs to practice EMPATHY for goodness sake. How would he like to feel so ill in someone elses house?

A 5 hour car journey with a puking DC is Not Much Fun.

I'd cancel.

If DH (on the back of full disclosure that he's been in contact with a vomitous one) still wants to go, then off he goes. You stay put with the convalescent (and any other DC who wants to be at home).

You or DH may have the bug by tomorrow or may start in his PIL's house on Boxing Day. Having recently spent a night in a hotel room with ds2 vomiting 14 times overnight I wouldn't recommend it.

I'd cancel too, yes you could give DD a bowl, but what happens if she needs a loo and badly, that would be a really horrid thing to force on a child.

Plus not nice for the relatives to catch it either.

Pop to the bathroom yourself and say you've vomited. Then stay at home. No way would I be driving 5 hours in thia weather. You know it makes sense.

Stay home. No one wants the little extra present you might end up sharing and your poor dd falling ill again on a 5 hour journey would be awful.

I'm sorry but with the best will in the world I would want a child with d and v visiting us. A gastro bug is not really the kind of Christmas gift you want to receive!