To expect PIL to treat their DGCs more equally?

[StillNoFuckingEyeDeer]

We have 2 DDs. DD1 is almost 3, DD2 is 6 months.

Before DD2 was born, PIL sent a load of 'about to be a big sister' presents for DD1.
When DD2 was born, PIL bought more gifts for DD1.
Later, after DH spoke to them about treating the girls equally, they gave him some money to buy DD2 a jumperoo as a new baby gift. (their suggestion was a new bed for DD1, so that DD2 could have the cotbed).
When they came to DD2's christening, they bought gifts from other people to DD2 (& some for DD1), but only gifts for DD1 from themselves.
DH visited them with DD1, and again, loads more presents for her but this time something small for DD2 too.
For Christmas they asked suggestions for DD2, because they were buying something big for DD1, so I sent a list of ideas. The big item arrived a few weeks ago. Yesterday 2 parcels arrived with a gift for DH, a gift for me, a small gift for DD2 and Three more gifts for DD1.

We haven't got as much for DD2 as DD1, because I've given her the gifts I bought for Christmas just after I bought (so she could use/wear them straight away) them and we've put a little money into her account too. My parents have done the same - early gifts/money & less on the day.

AIBU to expect PIL to treat my DDs a bit more equally? I don't think they need the same value of gifts, but to me there's a pattern of favouritism starting that I think is wrong.

I know they're very lucky to get gifts, and it's not that I want more for DD2 - I'd rather they gave less for DD1.

DSIL has an 8/9 month old DS and I know they have spent a lot more money on gifts for him since he was born, but I don't have a problem with that at all, because he lives much further away etc. I just think that siblings should be treated more equally.

YANBU to want your children treated equally, and the situation is worth keeping an eye on for the future so that it doesn't cause problems. But you might be being a little unreasonable in that your dd2 is a baby and will presumably be using a lot of stuff that was once used for dd1. Hopefully that will continue with the bigger gifts that dd1 has being things that dd2 can enjoy when she's old enough.

I have a 4 month old and an almost 4 year old.

Dd1 has had alot more spent on her than dd2 purely because of the age!
But this will change as she gets older.

It's worth keeping an eye on though, it sounds odd that it was her christening she has nothing yet dd1 had presents!

PILS have always been dreadfully unfair towards even their own children..eg this christmas have bought DH's brother a car (!) and given DH £20.

MN is full of posts from parents saying the elder children get far more with far less being spent on younger siblings. Seems fine for parents to do this but god forbid a grandparent does.

I do think they should be treated the same but given you have not done that you cant really preach to them to do so.