To say I don't want to fecking come!

[Thegrinchishere]

Myself and dp all ways went out for a meal on Xmas Eve . He wants to carry the tradition on now that ds is here. Ds is 9m.

I don't really like going out at night with ds as he is such a bad sleeper. I didn't fancy it.

I didn't actually say " I don't want to go " just thought he wouldn't actually organise a thing and I could 'forget' .

He has know invited the whole bloody family. They are really late eaters so I did my best to get them agree to a six 0 clock meet up. Which is actually bang in the middle of ds bath time. He is then put to bed at half six and will nod off.

Most of the family are disorganised - loads of kids so a 6.30-7pm meet up is more likely going to happen.

Then the meal will last a couple of hours then it's 45 min journey back.

Ds will not sleep at all if there is a tiny bit of stimulation and I won't even be able to eat my meal as he will be tired/ confused .

I will literatly be spending three whole days over Xmas with dp family and now this is over kill.

AIBU? If so what can I do? If not what can I say to get out of it.

However, having re-read the OP, I do agree that you should have voiced your concerns in the beginning.

If you didn't want to do this then you should have said so when he first mentioned it, as you didn't you can't really whinge now.

Your child will be fine & I agree you need to relax a little.

What did you decide OP?

I hope you have a good evening.
I hear you. I just want to kill anyone that suggests a n evening meal out with my DCs, the youngest is 10 mo.
It's exhausting. And nobody ever actually really helps with the babies.
Humbug

I completely get you. My DS is the devil's child past his bedtime and if I'd tried to 'pass him round' people when in that mood he would have squealed like a banshee. You know whether your DC can cope with an evening like that or not. And as for 'they have to work around you sometimes', seriously, it was a year of my life. The world wasn't going to end if I didn't go out to a restaurant with a screaming miserable baby

stay with your baby, or go with your baby. just don't be separated from the baby.

Grinch, tell your dh that if he wants to go so much, then he looks after baby! So unfair that the blokes leave it to the women!!!

Hi! Merry Christmas all!

I did go, I'm so glad I did as we had a blast. Ds was like the class clown and even had the waiting on staff cooing over him.

He is currently fast asleep in bed after falling flat out in the car -snoring . Apparently he like company!

I feel stupid for moaning and being up tight about it.

I'm sat here now with a Santa hat on quaffing mulled wine

That is good news. :-)

Slightly disappointed this is not a sex related thread. Been on MN far to long.....