To not want ILs to stay?

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Dp's parents are intending to come and stay 'some time in the new year'. Our first baby together is due on 12th Jan (ie any time now). I've only met them once, we all went out for dinner. nice polite conversation.
Don't know if it's particularly relevant but dp's parents are Indian, and from what I can gather they are not what you'd call liberal, dp's brother who is in his mid thirties still doesn't dare tell them he lives with his Caucasian girlfriend of 7 years
Anyway, I said to dp that I probably won't want them to stay when the baby is brand new, as I'll be tired, sore, can't imagine bfing in front of FIL... so he just goes off on one saying their hos parents they can stay whenever they like, and saying how he doesn't want my mum dictating to him how to bring up our baby I know they don't see eye to eye on a lot if things however my mum is close by and helps a lot with my dd (8) so really it's quite different. Plus I've always agreed with him that we'll do what we want regarding baby.
WIBU to say something about his parents staying? They're practically strangers, and dd hasn't even met them....

Zipadeedoodah have you actually read anything the OP has typed?

Firstly, she's not married

Secondly, She's tried to get to know her DP's parents but he keeps them at arm's length.

Thirdly, it's hardly the OP's fault that her DP's Mother hasn't managed to learn much English.

And that's just for starters. Perhaps you should re-read?

Oh I missed this Signing off for the night and maybe longer as am a little offended by the inference of the OP...

Yes I think that's a fantastic idea if you're that easily offended by someone else's problems.

If your bf perfect excuse to nip off to the bedroom to feed, especially if you take a tablet/kindle/book with you. I loved being able to escape family to go bf in my bedroom - half an hour of blissful peace every two hours.

My friends inlaws always speak in their own language with her oh or the lapse into it mid conversation. She says its really annoying and boring as you have no idea what the conversation is about.

Good idea mum, and if we both fall asleep after said feed, so what?

I knew my ILs very well when I had DD1 but still found it hard to have anyone else in the house when you're in that mad adjusting phase. Like other posters, it meant I had to bf in my bed - a lot. Which was just what we needed too - and I became very skilled at bf while reading...