I am in the midst of a family get together at my parents house, it's jolly most of the time but there are certain issues that me and my mum don't see eye to eye about.
The first is stairs, my ds is not yet 1 but has been walking since 10 months, he can crawl up and down stairs but ideally I'd prefer him not to think stairs are a fun play area. He understands not to go near things that are dangerous, for example he doesn't touch the Christmas tree because we have told him not to, I think we should also tell him not to go on the stairs. My mum thinks that babies should be allowed to fall down the stairs to help them learn how to use them safely. My parents house is a split level house over 5 floors with a very open plan lay out, so shutting the door and avoiding stairs isn't really an option.
The other issue is germs, my mum isn't worried about germs but I am, I actually really struggle with anxiety surrounding my dc's health. A member of the family had a tummy bug, I thought it would be sensible if I kept ds In a different room when possible to the person with a tummy bug ( vomiting child so in my opinion a fairly big infection risk) I appreciate the risk of catching the bug is fairly high when living in the same house but I'd at least like to attempt to avoid it. As it happens no one else seems to have gone down with the bug (so far) I think it was possibly excitement or a reaction to food as the child had no diarrhea or fever.
Me and my mum get on great most of the time, but in these cases who decides? I don't expect my mum to care for my dc, she wants to, when she does aibu to expect her to respect my rules? Aibu to expect her respect that it's my baby my rules and if I want to keep him away from ill people ( not expecting anyone else to change their plans, quite happy to hang out in our room or the 2nd living room or go out) and not let him play on stairs then it is my choices to make?