to be seeing him every day when he lives with someone else?

[ClockWatchingLady]

A lovely, friendly fat tabby cat sits in an alcove by my front door and waits for me. We share some lovely moments. I can't let him in though, can I, even if I don't give him dinner?
Even though we're a bit in love...?

I am a cat owner who is wise enough to understand that I don't in fact own the cat at all. He is his own man....he goes to the woman over the road often...comes home smelling of her tuna...that's up to him. I won't stifle his instincts.

I'm currently curled up on the sofa with a gorgeous cat who came visiting 10 months ago and has never left. To be fair his owners (who I am in loose contact with) don't give a crap about the cat so me and hubby have no qualms about him practically living with us now

Please dont let him in without asking his owners first. It would probably cause terrible worry for his family, interfere with his diet if you feed him, and possibly prevent him having regular medication or a trip to the vet if he cant be found when he is needed.

My cat used to sit on our neighbours door mat and swear at him when he came in and out. Your visiting cat is obviously rather classier! Or perhaps less possessive...

I'd wait until the summer when you have windows/door open or can canoodle in the garden because in the winter effectively you are shutting the cat in.

Tempting but probably wrong.

Cats go where they please and spend time with whoever they like. Next door owned a lovely cat, but he mostly lived with me. I didn't feed him (except for occasional treats) but he liked to sleep on my bed and kept my feet warm while I did my homework. Next door didn't mind as she inherited cat from her mother when she passed away and he terrorised her own elderly cat.

WooWooOwl Too right cats don't have owners. They have staff. As many as they can get.

If you are happy being one of many lady friends he has on the side then go ahead

Easy to forget when he purrs sweet nothings while you are snuggled up

I wonder if my pusscat soldier is doing this with a few around here he often comes home smelling of another home

A cat who moves in with a sneaky treat-giving neighbour creates a vacancy...

Cats do have owners. The owner is the person who got the cat microchipped, pays for the insurance and vet bills, worries about where the cat is whilst some interfering busybody is feeding the sleek, well groomed, collared 'stray' whiskas that is rotting his teeth....
Get your own cat, there are hundreds in rescue needing a home.

I wouldn't let a Cat that I didn't own in my house.
My dp kept a cat for 3 days as it was a terrible winter and she was struggling to get through the snow he phoned Pdsa hoping she was a stray or whatever and someone nearby was missing the cat,they were grateful though that he kept her safe.

The cat now has it's very own track mark down the length of his garden it comes by so often.

I have to say I would never never advocate feeding someone elses cat. We keep our cats in overnight and our house is definitely home but boy cats do wander far even when neutered. Still haven't worked out which one goes into next door and terrorises the neighbour - she is scared of cats and ours look too similar for her to know which is which!

You are the OH (other human) this cat will use you and abuse you and then return to their owner. All cats have serial OHs.

We currently have 3 cats and they do what they want.

Why would you feed a fat cat?

What pisses me off no end is that we heave a very fat cat, (the others are both spot on) and I've wasted money and stressed her out ferrying her to the vets for tests and the fat fighters clinic only to be told she's normal so must be getting fed elsewhere.

A previous cat we had would come home and throw up copious amounts of ham which has loads of salt in it.

Are you my neighbour? She swore blind she wasn't feeding my cat, or petting her, or letting her in the house - except when my boys went over for something they find a cat gym, cat bed and feeding bowls and neighbours didn't have a cat of their own, they stole mine.

We rehomed her, chipped & spayed & vaccinated & loved her - NDN took her and then shut the doors for a month. I'm still sad :(

I would let a cat in, but leave the door open so that it can definitely leave whenever it wants (which might not be very pleasant in this weather).

Could you respect yourself being the OS (other staff)?

I'd definately let it in but them i'm a huge cat lover.

I feed the neighbours cat, he waits every morning on my drive for his treat and sometimes comes back later in too. Given the neighbours have seen me do it, presumably they are fine with it. He never comes in though as hates my cat.

At our old house we used to have a regular visitor that pretty much lived with us in the end as the owner believed cats dont live indoors. He was very brazen and quickly discovered the car flap so we put him his own bed next to the radiator rather than him sleep outside. Owner didnt care. It was us that took him the vets when he needed it.

Ah well, luckily I'm not after commitment. A bit of casual stroking and nuzzling will keep me satisfied. Never did have very high standards.

I did let him in for a bit when he scooted through my legs this morning, but he certainly won't get food. And like the other men in my life, the minute he licks his balls in public, he's out.

I'm loving all the tales of the world's many feline harlots. I know what I want to be in my next life

You hussy!

I am a bit in the same position. The family opposite have put one of those electric Christmas candle sets up on the windowledge where the cat likes to sit, and I can see the poor confused moggy looking at it thinking 'but ... but ... you put a lovely cat-sized radiator up there are now you won't let me curl up on it! Why are you so cruel?!' and he keeps popping over to mine to put his little cold nose on my ankle when I'm not expecting it.

Ours is a more volatile, screech-filled relationship than yours.

My big fat tabby was in a Ménage à trois with my neighbour. He was a really private neighbour the sort that doesn't want any interaction. I always knew when my cat was in his house because he would let himself in through the front door and talk so animatedly to him - hilarious. When it came to feeding, I asked him outright how often he fed him (I saw the china bowl over the fence, very fancy) and said I would reduce the big fellas meals at mine by that amount. I figured if you want some furry loving you gotta pay your share. I covered the vet bills so all in all in was a nice little time share deal!

ClockWatchingLady And like the other men in my life, the minute he licks his balls in public, he's out.

If in private it's OK you must know some very supple men, or perhaps you work in a circus. It's said that Nijinksy (the dancer, not the horse) could perform auto-fellatio, which one politician now deceased said should better be called recycling.

Behave, Andrew.