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about christmas dinner...

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Rachelx92 · 23/12/2013 19:59

Me, dd and dp have been invited to his mum's for christmas and she's requested that everyone brings a dish because it will all be too much for her. There's going to be 8 of us altogether. Dp informed me that we're doing the roast potatoes and when I asked him why he said because his mum can't do it all. Last year we hosted for 6 and cooked the lot with no problem and the guests brought snacks and drinks with them which I thought was standard. Anyway his mum came last night and dp told her he'd bought a cheesecake for xmas pudding and she snapped back asking why we aren't making one. AIBU in being a bit irritated by it all?!

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HoneyDragon · 23/12/2013 20:01

I think uababu about her asking everyone to chip in a dish. She may genuinely feel it's too much.

But as for her cheesecake comment. UANBU, she was bloody rude!

Longfufu · 23/12/2013 20:02

Do you think you're irritated because its the MIL and you find her irritating. If a friend who you liked asked you to make the potatoes for a meal would that bother you?

dreamingofsun · 23/12/2013 20:02

hopefully when you are his mum's age he will do the same for you - expect others to help out. she is old, you are young. she is a bit grouchy for cheesecake though.....should show a bit more grattitude.

smile and think how good you are

HeartShapedBox · 23/12/2013 20:03

I hope one of you snapped back "why aren't you?"

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Rachelx92 · 23/12/2013 20:04

I don't mind doing the potatoes it's her comment about the pudding which irritated me. She isn't old btw she's in her mid 50s and very active. When we go for sunday dinner she normally cooks for 6-8

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friday16 · 23/12/2013 20:05

dp told her he'd bought a cheesecake for xmas pudding and she snapped back asking why we aren't making one

I always find "fuck off" is appropriate in these situations. If you are worried about causing offence, then try "no offence, but fuck off".

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Rachelx92 · 23/12/2013 20:06

She's only going to be doing the meat which I believe is turkey and veg to accompany. I don't get what's so stressful about that?

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Rachelx92 · 23/12/2013 20:07

Haha I wish I could say that Friday! He's petrified of his mum so would never stand up to her and when I stood up to her before she started throwing threats. In all honesty I don't actually want to go there but if I stay home alone that will cause more problems

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pictish · 23/12/2013 20:13

You are both being unreasonable. You, for begrudging a few roasters and deciding whether or not she's allowed to be stressed out, and her, for bitching about the contributions.

pictish · 23/12/2013 20:13

So you don't get along then?

DeckTheHallsWithBoughsOfHorry · 23/12/2013 20:14

It's fair enough of her to ask people to bring specific things (although poor hosting Wink ) but getting sniffy about the precise provenance of those offerings is Just Too Much.

sooperdooper · 23/12/2013 20:16

I don't get why people get stressed over Christmas dinner at all, it's just basically a roast dinner!

She was v rude about the cheese cake, if she wanted home made she should make it herself

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Rachelx92 · 23/12/2013 20:18

We get along for the sake of it. She doesn't like me and always tries to start an argument. Everything bad that happens is my fault apparently like dd getting a cold, dd falling and bruising herself. As bad as this sounds I'd be quite happy to never see her again

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